B90- S7 E3 "Sound and the Fury"

[00:00:00] Hi everyone, just a disclaimer. The second half of the episodes are really honest, the last about 15 minutes of the episode, Guretaek.

[00:00:14] The audio isn't too great, you can still hear me clearly but you can also hear the background noise.

[00:00:22] Unfortunately, my mic hurt her a reason sometimes it's a society to be mean, picked out the background noise.

[00:00:29] But the most of the episode is about an hour in the beginning part of the episode everything is peachy.

[00:00:37] So just as a disclaimer, the second half, which is about 15 minutes of the episode, is not the greatest.

[00:00:46] But enough of me, let's go into the episode.

[00:01:03] Welcome to Reality T times 2.

[00:01:06] The podcast where we discussed all the trash reality TV we left date.

[00:01:12] I'm Toneka and today we are going to be discussing, before the 90 days episode 3, because I realized again that I hadn't given that one to you yet.

[00:01:23] So we're going to be doing that one. So we're going to be going through all of the before the 90s.

[00:01:27] We'll have, we'll be up to date by the end of the week. That is the plan. So it has to be the plan.

[00:01:34] So there's no choice but before we head into the episode, just a couple of quick announcements.

[00:01:42] One announcement being, there will be the bonus episode from next take podcast will be coming after this.

[00:01:54] So you're going to be getting it in October, technically. I forgot to give it to you guys.

[00:02:01] But you're going to be getting this episode, and recording this on a Monday, and beginning this episode on the Tuesday.

[00:02:06] And then you'll get the bonus in between the two regular episodes.

[00:02:11] So you'll be getting that. So that's coming for that.

[00:02:16] And the next thing kind of more, just more, I guess programming note in a sense. I guess is for full for this episode.

[00:02:29] Because this one is so late we're not going to be doing, there won't be any ads or anything like that.

[00:02:33] We're just going to kind of pile through the episode just because it is late.

[00:02:38] But we are still going to do, actually no, I'm not going to do any hall costs on this episode either.

[00:02:44] I'll have hot costs for you in another episode.

[00:02:48] Also, the selling sunset episodes are coming your way as well.

[00:02:53] That is all done right ago. So we will be my plan.

[00:02:57] It's with selling sunset is to get all of the episodes done.

[00:03:01] Higher to love it's buying coming out on Wednesday.

[00:03:06] So you might still be, you might still get the last episode Wednesday, but all of the episodes you'll have.

[00:03:13] That's done right ago so we can move on to the next.

[00:03:16] That is the plan with love is blind.

[00:03:20] I don't know if I'm going to be able to get shared on.

[00:03:24] I am going to talk to her. She'll she can come on for an episode or two.

[00:03:28] But I will not sure she'll be able to come on. She's a busy, busy lawyer.

[00:03:32] So we'll see what she, what I can get her to do.

[00:03:35] But there is plan for Ava to be on a few episodes.

[00:03:39] So we will see how that goes.

[00:03:43] But that's basically it for this episode, for the announcements and stuff.

[00:03:49] So let's just stop right into the episode.

[00:03:52] So this is B90 episode 3.

[00:03:59] Sound and the fury.

[00:04:03] Not sure.

[00:04:04] Is this supposed to be a, okay, why don't we do some movies? I can't remember.

[00:04:07] Anyways, we're talking to a, we're talking to a,

[00:04:11] a rainy or rain.

[00:04:14] Anyways, we're talking about them first.

[00:04:17] So this is the next day now, after she's arrived and she didn't sleep.

[00:04:23] She said the humidity was really bad.

[00:04:27] But I was also cold.

[00:04:28] So we, which is it?

[00:04:30] Now maybe she was having hot flashes.

[00:04:33] Let's be real if you have hot flashes.

[00:04:35] You kind of go from hot to cold in the matter of a minute.

[00:04:40] So it'd be that's what was going on by whatever.

[00:04:46] You know, she said maybe he's intimidated by me.

[00:04:48] Maybe that's why he didn't want to sleep with me in the bed.

[00:04:52] She said I'm a lot of woman.

[00:04:54] Yeah? Well, okay.

[00:04:57] Sure.

[00:04:58] You're a lot of woman.

[00:04:59] But not for the reasons you think.

[00:05:02] But anyways.

[00:05:04] Then,

[00:05:05] Cheedy comes into the room and he's going to be making her some breakfast.

[00:05:10] He tells her tuna sit in relax while he, you know, it cooks.

[00:05:16] And he says like, cooking was really important to him.

[00:05:20] Obviously he kind of maybe fell off of it a little bit when he became blind.

[00:05:24] But he's like, listen, I can still do this.

[00:05:27] Like, no problem.

[00:05:28] So he's, he's doing it.

[00:05:30] And while he's cooking, she's like staring at his ass.

[00:05:34] Like, did anyone else notice?

[00:05:36] She's just staring at his ass.

[00:05:41] So he does drop some stuff.

[00:05:45] But she helps him and he doesn't even without the sight here.

[00:05:49] Remember how to do everything.

[00:05:52] I think he said that the biggest issue,

[00:05:55] because obviously his photos are a little different in other places than it would be here in North America.

[00:06:00] So he has to have to like, all right, the stove.

[00:06:03] So I think that's the part that's maybe a little more dangerous than anything else.

[00:06:12] Yeah, so I think it was hard about yeah, when he first got off his sight,

[00:06:16] he was more scared to use the knife.

[00:06:18] Well, let's do it like I said.

[00:06:21] But he gets it done.

[00:06:22] He said it's been six years since she has been with anyone.

[00:06:28] I guess I'm not son.

[00:06:30] So I guess there's some general, well, I think in this suns book,

[00:06:33] she's known for like five years.

[00:06:35] It's been six years since she's actually been physical with somebody.

[00:06:39] She's a bad one, I just touching anyone.

[00:06:43] But for you with you, I can't stop, but she's telling this to him.

[00:06:47] And he says that he does kind of roused by her, because obviously he is still a human man.

[00:06:53] Does because he has taken a vowel, so obviously does not mean that his body is going to respond in certain ways.

[00:07:01] And he knows that she has been, or I think she has been like kind of hoping that they would have sex.

[00:07:12] But he does have to tell her about his vowel but the eat the food and do sense it was good.

[00:07:17] I think he like made eggs.

[00:07:19] I think it's when he made eggs and something else, not sure but then the heart of this episode,

[00:07:27] we are headed to the market with his sister Victoria.

[00:07:31] She's really excited to see the chickens because obviously the chickens everywhere.

[00:07:37] But Renee didn't know that his sister was going to be coming, which kind of she wishes that they were all alone,

[00:07:45] because she wants to have a long time with him, which I totally understand.

[00:07:48] But again, this is a person who is blind and you are in a city that you're not used to.

[00:07:53] And again, let's remember this is the biggest city, the largest city, and the entire continent of Africa.

[00:08:02] That is the largest city in Nigeria, that the largest and the whole freaking continent.

[00:08:10] So that's, you know, maybe not a good idea for you to be going alone with him.

[00:08:17] But when they have to actually cost the street, which is really busy, you have the cabs going by, the cars going by, people cry.

[00:08:24] Like, is this an absolute mess?

[00:08:26] She's like, I don't know, I think I'm not much.

[00:08:29] They happy that his sisters here because he likes.

[00:08:33] Then they get to the market and Chitty says, you know, when I was younger, I loved going to the market, you know, taking all that in.

[00:08:41] But now he says because of his senses are heightened with the sounds and the smells and everything.

[00:08:48] It could be very overwhelming.

[00:08:52] But then they had to the chickens.

[00:08:56] Oh, I want to probably say this every episode at this point.

[00:09:02] Till see Matt Sharp, whoever's in charge of casting, I bless your heart.

[00:09:09] Really, truly bless your heart.

[00:09:10] Thank you so much for this amazing gift Christmas game early.

[00:09:14] Thank you so much. This is the best gift I have ever received.

[00:09:20] Ever.

[00:09:22] Like, does this a fucking incredible?

[00:09:25] Thank you. I want to cry because the casting of this show of this season, I don't think it will ever be topped.

[00:09:34] This is amazing anyway.

[00:09:39] So, yeah, they get to the chickens and she's like, what do you do with the chickens?

[00:09:48] She's like, are you offing them?

[00:09:50] She's like, I won't outstarf because I'm not going to eat anything that's going to be off.

[00:09:56] And she's like, I just thought she was showing me the chickens because she knows I love them.

[00:10:01] But then I figured that's what she was actually doing.

[00:10:04] And if you kill that chicken, I will come after you.

[00:10:09] Then she's threatening the guy who's in charge of the chickens to just keep it.

[00:10:16] Or I think Victoria's just keep it. I'll come back when she's not fucking here.

[00:10:23] And she's like, what person would kill someone's family in front of them?

[00:10:30] Like, she's just, she's about to have it.

[00:10:35] It's let the chicken live. Don't forget the sniff.

[00:10:40] And this is when my eyes widened and I'm like, wait a whole second.

[00:10:50] Which, Victoria, then asks Renee, do you eat chicken?

[00:10:57] Yes, wait, wait, wait.

[00:11:00] Man, you eat chicken? So wait.

[00:11:04] It's one of the things to be like, I love animals. I love whatever blah blah blah.

[00:11:08] And I can understand that if they could person's actually much at her and or just choose it on to eat that particular animal that they really, really love.

[00:11:15] In her case, we chicken.

[00:11:17] I would get it.

[00:11:20] But this woman is literally like, oh yeah, I eat them all the time.

[00:11:26] So you're eating your family.

[00:11:29] What? Just because you're picking it.

[00:11:33] I feel like I understand that I'm going to the store and picking it up that way.

[00:11:37] But like, I'm not the one killing them.

[00:11:41] Someone is though.

[00:11:42] Someone is still killing that chicken for your consumption.

[00:11:46] Right? Like, I'm not saying I particularly want to see a chicken being killed either.

[00:11:51] I don't know if I could handle that.

[00:11:53] Again, I, we've, I went around birds. My entire life.

[00:11:57] I've seen not chickens but hens.

[00:12:02] I've been around this kind of animal my entire life.

[00:12:10] My aunt's, my aunt was the one who owned jet of farms.

[00:12:13] She had animal shed hens.

[00:12:16] Really, really crazy goose that would snap at you.

[00:12:19] Like, just, just by being near it, you even have to like be in its vicinity.

[00:12:26] You have to walk past it and it's not going to be.

[00:12:28] That goose was something else.

[00:12:30] But I have, sorry if you can hear banging.

[00:12:35] I think my neighbors are doing renovations as they always do.

[00:12:41] So, yeah, it's, sorry about that.

[00:12:44] Trying to get out with the source of this banging as well.

[00:12:46] Hopefully it doesn't pick up in the, in the recording.

[00:12:51] But yeah, so I've been around these animals my whole life.

[00:12:56] And I know particularly want to see a chicken being killed.

[00:12:59] However, I do know this is how it's done in other countries.

[00:13:03] Like if I were to go to South Africa, I don't know how they do things in South Africa.

[00:13:06] I don't know if it's similar if you, they do the same thing.

[00:13:10] Probably mainly depends on where in South Africa you are.

[00:13:13] But if I were to go to South Africa with my partner for whatever reason,

[00:13:16] vacation or whatever, I'm going to assume that there's a possibility that I might see a chicken being killed.

[00:13:25] Right? So it just how things are done.

[00:13:28] And honestly, it is fresher, you know.

[00:13:33] Like it's, it is better.

[00:13:37] I mean, I know it's not great and it's something that,

[00:13:39] as is North Americans can't comprehend or it may actually better yet.

[00:13:44] So Canadians and our Americans cannot comprehend, because I'm not sure what they do in Mexico that might do some more thing.

[00:13:52] But this is how it's done.

[00:13:55] They're being killed and if anything, isn't this more humane than what some places do when they kill animals?

[00:14:02] They're not like, they're not like,

[00:14:05] they're not be thumping,

[00:14:08] they're ringing to the neck and it's done in its own way.

[00:14:10] They barely feel it.

[00:14:12] I'm sure they're feeling it.

[00:14:14] But like, it's just like if a human being killed,

[00:14:17] it's a snap thing, you know?

[00:14:19] I mean, sorry guys, that's morbid,

[00:14:22] but it's like a snap thing.

[00:14:24] You're not realizing,

[00:14:28] once it actually the actual thing that does it happens,

[00:14:31] it's quick.

[00:14:33] Like it's quick,

[00:14:34] But besides all that though, any other day there is someone killing your chicken for you to eat it.

[00:14:45] Whether it is you or whether it's somebody else, aren't you them not like a coconut sparrider to killing your quote unquote family?

[00:14:52] Like you know what I mean?

[00:14:54] Like, I know that the chicken or the beef or the pork or whatever that I am consuming is being killed for me to consume it.

[00:15:05] And so I should have trickle warned because there might be people who aren't just against those sorry guys.

[00:15:11] But like yeah, it's just this is how it is.

[00:15:17] And for her to be like, oh no you're not doing that.

[00:15:20] I'm gonna be a part of it.

[00:15:22] Ma'am you've been a part of it for 37 years with eating chicken.

[00:15:28] You have been a part of it just because you're actually going to physically see it be done.

[00:15:33] You're still a part of it.

[00:15:35] What do you mean? She's not okay.

[00:15:39] I think we've established this by now.

[00:15:42] We're on episode 5 or 6th.

[00:15:45] We've established she's not.

[00:15:47] But it's just like, you can't be real. She can't be real.

[00:15:51] I'm sorry because it's ridiculous.

[00:15:56] So yeah.

[00:15:57] So she says yes, I eat it but I don't kill it.

[00:16:02] I just didn't want to eat that chicken because that chicken,

[00:16:05] I'm gonna see it's that's a jealousy.

[00:16:07] It's that right.

[00:16:10] She's like, you know he's just like wrapped it by the legs.

[00:16:14] You know, no care about it.

[00:16:17] Like if you have a little bit of compassion before doing it.

[00:16:22] And like that's one thing but like he's so cold.

[00:16:25] Ma'am.

[00:16:27] He's doing a job.

[00:16:28] Okay. His job is to have this chicken be killed so someone can eat it.

[00:16:35] He's getting his money whatever.

[00:16:37] Not everyone. I mean, I hear what she's saying.

[00:16:41] But at the same time, you can't kill something.

[00:16:46] But because you have this like,

[00:16:50] Do you okay? Let's go back. Let's say this.

[00:16:53] Does she think that the butcher or whoever that's killing her chicken for her to eat is doing it with compassion?

[00:17:05] No. It's not.

[00:17:08] And I think any person who's killing another person or an animal isn't going to have compassion.

[00:17:17] That's the last thing they're going to have.

[00:17:19] They're doing what needs to be done.

[00:17:22] I mean, that doesn't need people being killed.

[00:17:24] It's not need to be done. I'm just putting that out there.

[00:17:27] Okay. Screw those people. I'm not saying.

[00:17:30] They're doing in their mind what needs to be done for whatever reason.

[00:17:34] In this case, I have to kill chicken to get money.

[00:17:40] So that's their job.

[00:17:43] You're not going to have compassion.

[00:17:44] I just find it funny that she thinks that if you have a little bit of compassion towards this to the animal or the person who's killing her chicken has compassion to that animal,

[00:17:56] That's not happening.

[00:17:57] Not everyone thinks the same way you do.

[00:18:00] Do I hear you? Sure.

[00:18:02] But not everyone's going to think the way you do about that animal.

[00:18:06] Like it's like I said, she's not okay.

[00:18:11] So put that out there.

[00:18:13] So basically, for Tories like us in the yoshtina here, I will look at the chicken.

[00:18:18] She said, I won't eat it. Then don't eat it.

[00:18:20] Starv don't care.

[00:18:22] Eat whatever else she's cooking to go with that chicken.

[00:18:25] You're lost anyways.

[00:18:27] But as the version says, you know, let the chicken live sniff.

[00:18:32] It whole not. She's like, fine. I won't buy the chicken then.

[00:18:35] But she doesn't buy them. She's like, if you don't want it,

[00:18:38] I will not give it to you. You don't want to eat it. You don't have to eat it.

[00:18:45] I just like I care for animals the way you care for people.

[00:18:50] And again, that's very true. I hear her on that.

[00:18:54] And for those people who are like vegan who do not eat animals for the same reason she's saying that she doesn't want to eat this chicken.

[00:19:04] Don't eat any animal.

[00:19:06] You mammard. You're eating the animal.

[00:19:10] But you say that you don't want to eat like she's a weirdo,

[00:19:14] which is the thing to realize that like you're not making sense.

[00:19:19] This isn't making sense.

[00:19:24] So there's basically a they're sitting down her and cheating or sitting down.

[00:19:29] And while Pertora is going to go and finish those shopping and get that goddamn chicken.

[00:19:33] It's like look at these chickens. They're so free.

[00:19:37] And it's not. It's not. Let's move again.

[00:19:43] G.D. says like, you know, it has a little bit confusing to him because she eats chicken.

[00:19:49] Yeah. Agreed. I'm confused.

[00:19:53] I would figure she loves chicken so much as she wouldn't eat the actual chicken.

[00:19:57] But she's eating the chicken. She's just as he heard their buffalo wings saying,

[00:20:01] you know what I mean? Like what?

[00:20:05] So he just wants to.

[00:20:09] She says she just wants to eat the passion.

[00:20:13] She doesn't feel at all bad for her reaction.

[00:20:16] She owns, I mean, I'll give you that okay.

[00:20:18] Only a reaction. I guess.

[00:20:20] She doesn't care. She doesn't. She's in real bad about it.

[00:20:23] She's like, I will do that. I will take all of the chickens and bring them into my room.

[00:20:29] I don't like anyone else's in there anyway.

[00:20:30] So she protects them.

[00:20:32] Good for you. He says, what kind of do to make you feel special?

[00:20:35] He's treaties.

[00:20:37] I think she wants more touchy because he never.

[00:20:41] She never had that before.

[00:20:45] So he's like, um, he's like, okay, well, about that.

[00:20:51] I got a minzer.

[00:20:53] No, again, this is a purpose.

[00:20:55] Being touchy, feely doesn't necessarily mean that has to be about sex.

[00:20:59] But of course he has to say that because he's like,

[00:21:03] I'm not going to do X, Y and Z.

[00:21:06] I can touch him.

[00:21:06] He only goes so far.

[00:21:09] Um, because of this reason.

[00:21:10] So he says, listen,

[00:21:12] I have something I got to say.

[00:21:14] But I wanted to have the conversation in person.

[00:21:17] Like, I love you.

[00:21:19] And I'll do anything to keep you.

[00:21:21] But what I won't do is have sex with you.

[00:21:24] What he actually says is that he, um,

[00:21:29] I will not be having sex with you until we get married.

[00:21:32] And this is the vow that I made with God.

[00:21:36] And I do understand who her here a little bit because she's like,

[00:21:39] This is confusing.

[00:21:40] But I do also have a follow-up question to this.

[00:21:42] So let's get to what she says. She says.

[00:21:45] We just talk about sex all the time.

[00:21:47] And now you want to tell me about your little cell B C story.

[00:21:51] It's a cell of a C man, cell of a C.

[00:21:53] Oh God, now I'm going to say cell B C.

[00:21:55] I hate you anyway.

[00:21:57] So I do understand when she's saying here it gets it's like,

[00:22:00] Okay, if you did talk about sex,

[00:22:03] or however often you did.

[00:22:06] And I don't know how far those conversations would go.

[00:22:09] But if you did, now I was not even saying that you don't want to have sex with me,

[00:22:13] that wouldn't make me think, oh, is it me?

[00:22:16] Then this vow you're trying to say that it is, right?

[00:22:19] But then I also have a follow-up question to that.

[00:22:21] Renee, did those conversations ever come to a stop?

[00:22:24] Did they ever come to a halt?

[00:22:26] Like, did he continue on with that even though we have this,

[00:22:32] this God,

[00:22:34] cell of a C, thank you.

[00:22:35] Okay, I got it.

[00:22:36] I had to think about it now because I want to say cell of B C,

[00:22:39] but did that,

[00:22:42] did that, like, did it come to a stop?

[00:22:44] Or did he continue on?

[00:22:45] Because if you continue on,

[00:22:46] that's kind of messed up for him to not have a conversation with you,

[00:22:50] because that doesn't make sense to me.

[00:22:52] Why talk about the sex?

[00:22:54] But then I actually have the sex, you know?

[00:22:57] But if he did that initially,

[00:22:59] it's he in the first couple years or something,

[00:23:01] and then he stopped,

[00:23:03] you know,

[00:23:03] then for the past three years you guys did not talk about sex.

[00:23:08] So then, like,

[00:23:10] to me personally,

[00:23:11] if I'm with me and my partner,

[00:23:16] we'll talk about sex, whatever, right?

[00:23:18] We do it, whatever.

[00:23:21] If that were to all of a sudden,

[00:23:23] just come to a halt,

[00:23:25] I would think what's going on.

[00:23:28] Now, my situation is different than her situation,

[00:23:30] but I would think what's going on.

[00:23:33] Then she's just playing on lines of, like,

[00:23:36] you always have the same God,

[00:23:41] and you're just doing what you think is right.

[00:23:44] This is what he believes in, what?

[00:23:48] But just a good homey that we were soulmates,

[00:23:52] and like, God brought us together.

[00:23:54] Okay, yes, yes,

[00:23:57] that's maybe what he said on what he believes as well.

[00:24:00] But then that does not mean that,

[00:24:02] because he thinks you guys are soulmates

[00:24:04] and God brought you together,

[00:24:06] that he needs to have sex with you before marriage.

[00:24:09] Those are two different things,

[00:24:11] what you're argument.

[00:24:16] But she's like,

[00:24:17] God has telling me something,

[00:24:19] and he's telling you something else.

[00:24:22] I have a question.

[00:24:24] I thought you believed in aliens,

[00:24:25] and the illuminati.

[00:24:28] So yes, your God's are going to say something different

[00:24:31] because your God's different than his, right?

[00:24:33] Like I'm confused.

[00:24:35] So he's, I just want it to be legal.

[00:24:42] He wants the legality of it,

[00:24:44] which is, again, understandable.

[00:24:49] And she's like, paper work.

[00:24:52] It's just the system.

[00:24:54] It's what the government wants.

[00:24:56] God doesn't care about the paperwork.

[00:25:02] But he does.

[00:25:03] It doesn't matter if God believes in the paperwork

[00:25:07] or whatever the hell.

[00:25:09] He believes in what he believes in.

[00:25:11] Doesn't matter what the government,

[00:25:13] which, again, I don't know what the hell she's talking about.

[00:25:16] But I mean, okay, yes, I know.

[00:25:18] I understand that she's saying that the government,

[00:25:20] that's the government, that's the system.

[00:25:22] And she's wanting to do with the system.

[00:25:25] That's fine.

[00:25:26] But guess what, man?

[00:25:28] You're with someone who you want to bring

[00:25:31] to the States with you.

[00:25:33] You're going to have to clock into the system

[00:25:35] and work to do it, right?

[00:25:37] Like you can't be married spiritually.

[00:25:40] God damn it.

[00:25:42] And think that's going to, like,

[00:25:45] immigration doesn't give a shit about your spiritual marriage.

[00:25:48] You know what I mean?

[00:25:49] So it's whatever.

[00:25:52] But again, it feels really gross.

[00:25:55] It feels predatory of her.

[00:25:56] It is predatory of her because trust me,

[00:25:59] it doesn't adhere.

[00:26:01] She is very predatory of her to be like,

[00:26:03] well, the government, this is the government.

[00:26:05] It's not religion, you know?

[00:26:07] Religion, if God brought us together,

[00:26:09] then we are soul mates and we should have sex.

[00:26:11] It's like, if this man is saying he does not want

[00:26:15] to have sex with you, then leave it alone.

[00:26:20] Shut up.

[00:26:22] But like, I'm sorry, just respect him.

[00:26:25] And again, I'm going to say this from a block.

[00:26:29] Women's perspective, a block person's perspective.

[00:26:32] It feels to me that this woman automatically thinks,

[00:26:38] because he's a black man,

[00:26:41] that he's just going to, he's just, he's just one sex.

[00:26:43] Because black men are seen in that way.

[00:26:46] And again, it's not just black men.

[00:26:47] Black women are as well.

[00:26:48] We kind of talked about it with our Kelly a little bit.

[00:26:52] And how black women are kind of viewed and how it's kind of

[00:26:55] brought that to the light with the documentary.

[00:26:57] So we're done with him.

[00:26:59] I think I talked a little more on next take,

[00:27:02] but it's definitely been talked about before in that

[00:27:04] perspective.

[00:27:06] And black men are viewed kind of similarly as well,

[00:27:09] especially with people outside of our race.

[00:27:14] So I think there's a lot of that kind of going on here

[00:27:17] that she thinks because I'm with a black man.

[00:27:19] He just won't have sex with me.

[00:27:22] And that's not the case.

[00:27:23] There are people black, white, Asian, whatever.

[00:27:27] Who want to be a cell of it.

[00:27:33] Who don't want to just necessarily, like no one's saying he's a virgin.

[00:27:36] I don't think he is.

[00:27:38] But he has taken a new vow,

[00:27:41] maybe because he, this is the thing that got him through

[00:27:45] his disability.

[00:27:49] So if he wants to take it that seriously,

[00:27:53] the measure we respected now is that something I would do?

[00:27:55] No, but that's me.

[00:27:58] Everyone is different on how they want to take this.

[00:28:02] And you should respect it if,

[00:28:05] if any relationship that I've been in and I started off with sex

[00:28:09] was off the table, yeah, sure that can be difficult

[00:28:12] and I can see that from her perspective.

[00:28:15] But if the person explains to me,

[00:28:17] this is why I have to respect it

[00:28:21] if I want to be with this person because that person

[00:28:24] is more important to me than whether or not I can have sex with them.

[00:28:29] She doesn't say it that way though, so.

[00:28:32] Currently.

[00:28:34] So she's like, if I knew this before I came here,

[00:28:40] I wouldn't have gotten on the plane.

[00:28:44] And again, I don't know how to feel about that.

[00:28:48] I'm a one hand, I hear what she's saying

[00:28:50] because that's her right.

[00:28:52] But on the other hand, it's like, well, he will then do you not love this person

[00:28:55] that enough anyways then because they that shouldn't matter

[00:28:59] whether or not you can have sex with him should not matter.

[00:29:04] You should want to be with him because you love him as a person

[00:29:09] and not whether or not he can please you physically.

[00:29:12] Yes, I know sex is an important factor in a relationship

[00:29:16] by a hundred percent agree with that.

[00:29:19] Like, I again, person, but this is me.

[00:29:22] I wouldn't want to enter into any long term relationship

[00:29:25] without having sex with someone to know.

[00:29:28] We're compatible in home ways.

[00:29:31] And I understand that.

[00:29:33] But I also think like no fester,

[00:29:36] but I think her part is so low with everything due to her past

[00:29:43] that it doesn't even matter if he quote unquote sucks in bed

[00:29:50] for her, it's not even about that.

[00:29:51] It's not whether or not he sucks in bed.

[00:29:54] She doesn't care about that person.

[00:29:57] I think I can speak, I must speaking for her, but just my opinion

[00:30:00] I don't think she cares whether or not he sucks in bed.

[00:30:04] It's more about the affection

[00:30:09] and that part of it that's really important to her.

[00:30:15] And although that can be important to most people,

[00:30:21] both of those right,

[00:30:23] whether or not a person is actually has skills in the bedroom

[00:30:26] and whether or not you also have a compassion

[00:30:29] and that passion and whatever.

[00:30:33] And the touch you feeling as if that she cares more about that.

[00:30:37] And that's okay.

[00:30:38] There's nothing wrong with that,

[00:30:40] but you can't talk about that.

[00:30:42] I don't think she wants to have sex with him

[00:30:44] because she wants to have sex with him and go out of it.

[00:30:47] She wants that.

[00:30:49] And again,

[00:30:52] that's coming from

[00:30:55] the perspective of this episode only.

[00:30:59] My views my channel on that,

[00:31:01] depending on how things look in the next episode.

[00:31:06] Episode six.

[00:31:08] So, which I have on air generally, but I think those reviews are going to change,

[00:31:12] but just based on this and kind of based on what happens in the most recent episode

[00:31:17] I think that's what she cares more about and that's okay.

[00:31:21] But you can combat that by doing other things,

[00:31:25] but there has to obviously be limits.

[00:31:30] If you're sexually frustrated,

[00:31:32] I don't know, say to you.

[00:31:35] Yeah.

[00:31:37] Go to a sex shop.

[00:31:38] Get some toys.

[00:31:39] I don't want to say it because it's just like,

[00:31:40] if you love him enough, then that's a sacrifice you should be willing to make or

[00:31:44] if you don't want to make of them, that's fine.

[00:31:47] But it's just like,

[00:31:50] I don't know.

[00:31:51] If this is like the best relationship you've been in,

[00:31:53] how he makes you feel and everything like that.

[00:31:56] And I do truly believe he loves her.

[00:32:00] Then be patient.

[00:32:04] And I don't know, but anyways,

[00:32:07] that's it for them.

[00:32:12] Talk to a while about them.

[00:32:13] So let's move on to my next favorite couple ever from the coo keeness.

[00:32:21] The Tiger Lily and Aunt Maan.

[00:32:23] So they are, so this is when they're walking into the San Maras.

[00:32:28] This is when they're getting married to the rocking.

[00:32:30] So that's their money.

[00:32:31] We meet his brothers,

[00:32:37] Yazin, Hamza, Ahmed,

[00:32:40] and also meets his mom.

[00:32:44] It was absolutely gorgeous.

[00:32:46] She's beautiful.

[00:32:47] This kind of is beautiful.

[00:32:51] She says when he told me that he wanted to get married,

[00:32:57] I was happy.

[00:32:59] But yeah, it's shocked because he's 22.

[00:33:02] He's like, I can tell she's really scared.

[00:33:05] Because she knew clue what's about to happen.

[00:33:07] But then the San Maras actually begins.

[00:33:09] And she feels confused y'all.

[00:33:11] She knows nothing about the Muslim marriage contract.

[00:33:14] That is something a Google search could have helped you with.

[00:33:17] Are you kidding me?

[00:33:19] I don't understand people who go into these situations having no clue what's happening.

[00:33:25] And don't do the Google search.

[00:33:26] I'm sorry, it's the prerequisite for the show is don't do Google searches.

[00:33:30] Like, honestly, honestly, like this is ridiculous.

[00:33:35] We forget that in the other way as well.

[00:33:37] The most recent episode of the other way, which will be coming soon.

[00:33:41] But it's like, does no one do Google searches?

[00:33:45] I'm marrying a Muslim man.

[00:33:48] I'm going to do the research.

[00:33:51] Hell, I'm done research on South Africa as a person who,

[00:33:56] Like, if I'm going to have kids with this person or family with this person,

[00:34:01] I want to know some stuff, you know what I mean?

[00:34:04] And obviously any questions I have he'll answer,

[00:34:06] but it's just like, do you're fucking research?

[00:34:10] It's just I don't get it.

[00:34:12] So, then they have to print their names and sign stuff.

[00:34:20] And I think they have a book they have to sign.

[00:34:22] That always looks like they says you're married.

[00:34:25] And they're married.

[00:34:28] So after that he kind of proposed this to her with a ring,

[00:34:34] even though now they're married,

[00:34:37] then they had back to the hotel.

[00:34:40] He just can't wait y'all.

[00:34:43] He's never had sex before he had read it.

[00:34:45] Go, he's like, let's do this thing.

[00:34:48] He's ready to go.

[00:34:50] And he's so ready to go that he's just screeching out

[00:34:54] to the whole town is like, oh, let's go.

[00:34:57] Oh, no, no, no, no.

[00:34:58] Like he's just ready.

[00:35:00] Like he's...

[00:35:02] I've never seen someone so ready.

[00:35:06] And he kicks the cameras out.

[00:35:09] Because he wants to have sex.

[00:35:10] They're y'all, they're close and y'all don't gotta go home,

[00:35:13] but you can't stay here.

[00:35:16] So it's the next morning.

[00:35:19] And he's so happy.

[00:35:21] I mean, once you've gone places, let's say that.

[00:35:27] You never see life the same ever again.

[00:35:30] Yep.

[00:35:31] He's a last night.

[00:35:32] It was his favorite night ever.

[00:35:37] I don't know whether, imagine.

[00:35:39] And he's like, I won't give details.

[00:35:42] But not a virgin anymore.

[00:35:45] However, she is a little bit more details.

[00:35:47] She's like, I don't really wake up with bad head.

[00:35:53] Usually, of course, not just she look like a person who wakes up with bad head.

[00:35:58] She's like, I don't really wake up with bad head.

[00:35:59] I don't even know how I'm standing right now.

[00:36:02] Jesus, what did he do to you?

[00:36:06] I mean, I've said that a few times too.

[00:36:08] I'm like, I can't even believe I'm walking, standing up right like,

[00:36:11] what's happening, like, the yikes.

[00:36:14] But it's weird though because again,

[00:36:18] the running conspiracy, which I definitely am a board way,

[00:36:23] is how in the hell does a man who's a virgin,

[00:36:28] capable of actually making you feel that way.

[00:36:32] You know what I mean?

[00:36:34] I just said that, like, I've definitely felt that way.

[00:36:37] In my relationship, I definitely had moments in our sex life

[00:36:41] where I'm like, what?

[00:36:45] You know, you know, those ones,

[00:36:48] we've seen Jesus, pretty sure.

[00:36:49] I've seen the light a couple times, those moments.

[00:36:52] But I'm also talking about a person who has been having sex

[00:36:56] for 10 plus years, or, you know, at least at this point,

[00:37:02] 15 years.

[00:37:03] So it's like he has the experience.

[00:37:07] And that takes high.

[00:37:08] We don't start off that way.

[00:37:10] You get into that and then you're like,

[00:37:12] got down.

[00:37:14] I mean, me as a virgin didn't have those,

[00:37:18] I do now, I got them skills now.

[00:37:21] But I really, truly took some time before I felt like

[00:37:25] I got this, you know what I mean?

[00:37:27] Like, I'm a blow his mind, kind of situation.

[00:37:31] That takes time.

[00:37:32] You know what's tell me that this man,

[00:37:34] 22 years old, never had sex before,

[00:37:36] it's just ready to go and he goes to that extent?

[00:37:40] I don't know, man.

[00:37:41] I don't buy it.

[00:37:43] And listen,

[00:37:45] yes, there are people who are Muslim who are really

[00:37:47] devout in their religion and don't have

[00:37:55] a religion.

[00:37:56] I'm just saying that.

[00:37:57] So he can very well be that.

[00:37:59] He can speak person who like did actually have sex.

[00:38:02] And he's not saying that he did.

[00:38:05] I honestly, here's on his eye.

[00:38:07] I'm going to add to the conspiracy a little bit.

[00:38:10] I think he told her, I'm not a virgin.

[00:38:13] I really do, I think he did.

[00:38:15] And I think the reason she was playing dumb,

[00:38:18] initially when it was brought up,

[00:38:20] whether or not he was a virgin in the first episode,

[00:38:22] is because she knows she can't say anything.

[00:38:24] I think on camera he's saving face because he knows his family

[00:38:27] is going to be watching it.

[00:38:29] But I think early,

[00:38:30] and I was not just family but even his mom,

[00:38:34] he's going to be watching it.

[00:38:35] Maybe some family who are a little bit more devout as well.

[00:38:40] And I think you kind of want to say face,

[00:38:42] but I think he is never a virgin.

[00:38:44] I think he does have to say face

[00:38:48] and he made her do the same,

[00:38:50] which I totally understand.

[00:38:51] But don't play me, I know.

[00:38:57] So anyway,

[00:38:59] so they're going to be a meaning app with some family today.

[00:39:02] Cruise and Shay are actually taking a day off.

[00:39:05] We do find out in the next episode or

[00:39:08] one of the next episodes.

[00:39:10] Yeah, the next episode that they're actually going to the Dead Sea,

[00:39:14] which is really cool.

[00:39:16] And they're taking a day off though,

[00:39:18] to unwind, relax before having to be on call for the next day.

[00:39:25] We're the wedding,

[00:39:26] the big wedding.

[00:39:28] And because of this though,

[00:39:31] she doesn't have anyone who can do her makeup,

[00:39:33] do her hair.

[00:39:34] So she needs to give her the hairstyle list from the hotel,

[00:39:36] who is a man when he shows up.

[00:39:39] And when Adnan sees the man,

[00:39:43] he's like,

[00:39:44] why is an adult woman?

[00:39:46] I don't know,

[00:39:47] that's who the hotel brought.

[00:39:48] Like, that's, you know,

[00:39:49] without her,

[00:39:50] she asked for a hairstyle list and that's the one they have for her.

[00:39:55] And he doesn't want any man to touch her.

[00:39:58] Well,

[00:39:58] again,

[00:39:59] is something that is definitely something we've heard many times.

[00:40:05] He's all out.

[00:40:08] And when this guy is trying to take up the job done,

[00:40:11] sorry,

[00:40:12] he's had to happen everything like that.

[00:40:13] And Nnan is just tearing down on him like a hawk,

[00:40:17] like,

[00:40:18] don't you dare touch her.

[00:40:21] He's,

[00:40:22] he's wearing a fight.

[00:40:24] And this guy's just rolling his eyes like,

[00:40:26] what the fuck am I doing here?

[00:40:28] He's,

[00:40:29] this poor man,

[00:40:30] the uncontribulity in this moment,

[00:40:32] this poor man.

[00:40:34] Is it okay?

[00:40:35] Fine.

[00:40:36] But he stays there the whole time,

[00:40:38] staring at her.

[00:40:39] And when pointy answer tells her to pull her shorts down,

[00:40:42] because her shorts are,

[00:40:43] I guess,

[00:40:43] writing up a little bit.

[00:40:47] And he's like,

[00:40:48] and those are she says,

[00:40:50] are you going to watch him roll time?

[00:40:52] He's like, yeah,

[00:40:53] yeah,

[00:40:54] yeah,

[00:40:54] my guy is getting rattled.

[00:40:57] He's making mistakes.

[00:40:58] He's dropping things.

[00:41:00] And she's like,

[00:41:02] he's not touching me.

[00:41:03] Like he's touching my hair.

[00:41:05] Don't even mind hair anyway.

[00:41:08] Then on non-starts,

[00:41:11] a timer,

[00:41:13] and basically gives this man five minutes

[00:41:16] together the stuff done.

[00:41:19] Do you have any clue how long it takes to do a woman's hair?

[00:41:23] And it's like she's brushing it or whatever.

[00:41:25] Like she's,

[00:41:26] like curling it,

[00:41:29] it takes time.

[00:41:31] And you obviously want to get your money's worth.

[00:41:33] They're not going to have us for her hair

[00:41:35] because you don't want her being touched by this random guy.

[00:41:38] Like, what it?

[00:41:40] It's,

[00:41:41] it's nonsense.

[00:41:43] Um,

[00:41:46] and she says, no,

[00:41:47] it's going to be down when he gets done.

[00:41:50] He's like,

[00:41:50] he's got a minute and a half.

[00:41:52] He's so serious.

[00:41:54] It's like it's almost time.

[00:41:56] Because done now.

[00:41:57] He's like,

[00:41:58] get out of here.

[00:41:59] It's done now.

[00:42:01] And he stands right,

[00:42:03] like the side him at that point

[00:42:06] and he'll be like,

[00:42:06] get the hell out of here.

[00:42:09] And it's like,

[00:42:09] but he's not done.

[00:42:10] He still has to finish.

[00:42:12] He's so nuts.

[00:42:15] once like I finish,

[00:42:16] he gets the hell out of dodge.

[00:42:17] And he's like,

[00:42:18] yeah,

[00:42:19] now he better have gone an amazing tip

[00:42:21] putting up with this nonsense.

[00:42:23] Again,

[00:42:23] this is a person who is Jordanian

[00:42:27] and probably knows,

[00:42:28] yes.

[00:42:29] But like,

[00:42:30] the whole toe in Jordan

[00:42:34] is the one who brought the man there.

[00:42:38] So I'm confused by it.

[00:42:41] She's confused by it,

[00:42:42] but at the end of the day,

[00:42:45] it's like,

[00:42:45] what are you going to do her hair?

[00:42:48] You know what I mean?

[00:42:51] So we are headed to the restaurant.

[00:42:55] It's meaning absolutely everyone today.

[00:42:58] And she says,

[00:42:59] although driving,

[00:42:59] because there's some people who are worried like the full.

[00:43:02] I know I knew it.

[00:43:03] I used to know the full name of it.

[00:43:05] hmm.

[00:43:07] I use it on the whole name of it.

[00:43:09] But the catch-offs that like you're completely covered, right?

[00:43:13] This is the eyes we're showing.

[00:43:15] Just seeing people like that who are walking on the street

[00:43:18] and she's like,

[00:43:19] why does some people cover up completely?

[00:43:23] And he's like,

[00:43:24] it's just showing like it's like,

[00:43:28] just showing more devout in your in Islam.

[00:43:33] And just like,

[00:43:38] do you,

[00:43:39] are you okay with me showing my hair?

[00:43:42] He kind of hesitates a little bit and says,

[00:43:46] like he's not sure.

[00:43:47] Like one day he's probably going to change his mind on that.

[00:43:51] Guarantee you will.

[00:43:53] So they get to the restaurant

[00:43:54] and their families like singing,

[00:43:57] we meet brothers, sisters,

[00:43:58] aunts, cousins.

[00:44:00] Then we eat,

[00:44:01] which looks really good.

[00:44:04] And the men and the women that didn't notice are eating separately.

[00:44:09] Everyone is,

[00:44:10] she says,

[00:44:10] it's feeding me so much food.

[00:44:13] I had to take mouthfuls of it

[00:44:16] and act like I was enjoying it.

[00:44:18] So wait were you not enjoying it?

[00:44:21] Like what?

[00:44:22] They maybe she means like enjoying

[00:44:26] the just shovels of food going to my mouth.

[00:44:29] Maybe that's the barge you saw anywhere.

[00:44:30] But I think that's not so much about the actual food.

[00:44:33] I looked at this food

[00:44:34] and it kind of saw her reaction.

[00:44:36] Which is what I'm eating it.

[00:44:37] I don't think she liked it.

[00:44:39] Which is like,

[00:44:39] it looked just like rice and chicken.

[00:44:41] Like what's the picture?

[00:44:43] But anyway,

[00:44:48] he explained that Jordan shows happiness with food.

[00:44:53] And then they show

[00:44:55] Montza, I think that's why I said,

[00:44:57] carry my head riding guys.

[00:44:58] That's the problem there.

[00:44:58] And but she's like,

[00:45:00] what animal is that?

[00:45:02] He's like sheep.

[00:45:03] She's like, I don't eat sheep.

[00:45:04] But you did.

[00:45:07] to like we eat sheep,

[00:45:09] he's like, yeah, a fluffy one.

[00:45:10] Now that's mean.

[00:45:11] That's mean.

[00:45:13] Right now he's going to have a thing

[00:45:13] or two to say about that.

[00:45:16] And so they're going to go get ready

[00:45:19] for the day tomorrow.

[00:45:21] One of the hot brothers though before they leave.

[00:45:24] He's like,

[00:45:24] me talks to you, I'm on.

[00:45:27] So where do you guys plan on living in America or here?

[00:45:32] Say here please.

[00:45:33] Like how about she can't.

[00:45:38] Or I think she's asking both of them.

[00:45:40] And she says, well,

[00:45:41] I have my kids in America like we have to be there.

[00:45:45] And she says it concerns her that he hasn't really told his family

[00:45:49] that the plan is for him to move to the states.

[00:45:52] And she has to move there.

[00:45:54] He's 22 no kids.

[00:45:57] She's 41 years old with two kids.

[00:45:59] And she has to co-parent with her toxic act husband.

[00:46:03] So it's like she has no choice.

[00:46:06] They have to live in the states.

[00:46:08] That I mean.

[00:46:10] That's it for them.

[00:46:12] Okay, let's do a quick one first.

[00:46:16] Before we finish up here,

[00:46:18] just Brian, as you Brian and Ingrid,

[00:46:20] they're not too much.

[00:46:21] Too long.

[00:46:23] So they are headed to the car.

[00:46:29] He rented a car.

[00:46:32] And he's going to put the hand controls on the car.

[00:46:37] But he needs kind of her help to do so.

[00:46:40] He, um, he's a travel with these all the time.

[00:46:43] But due to his hands,

[00:46:45] he can't get them like in place by himself.

[00:46:49] Ingrid helps him.

[00:46:51] But she is a little confused because he has told her that he isn't dependent

[00:46:56] when he travels.

[00:46:58] So like why do I have to help you do this?

[00:47:00] Now, yes, he might be independent.

[00:47:03] But I'm going to say this.

[00:47:05] I'm going to say this right now.

[00:47:08] He might be independent.

[00:47:10] 100%.

[00:47:11] But again, like why wouldn't you not want to help him anyways?

[00:47:14] You're an early henship with him.

[00:47:15] But at the same time,

[00:47:17] he's probably never put these controls on the cars before because he usually is probably traveling

[00:47:24] to men or woman.

[00:47:27] Or if he's like,

[00:47:29] I'm like a rug,

[00:47:30] like he would be doing something for the rugby team or whatever.

[00:47:34] And if I will at least not one who's able-bodied.

[00:47:38] Who either they are renting multiple cars and they can help with that.

[00:47:42] Or they have-

[00:47:44] They probably have like some sort of transportation that's arranged for them at a time.

[00:47:49] So they don't have to worry about that.

[00:47:51] But when these cases where he's going and traveling,

[00:47:54] he's traveling to meet women and those women are the ones who are putting the car controls on.

[00:47:59] His hands can't do it.

[00:48:00] I believe him that his hands are incapable of allowing him to do it.

[00:48:06] And I mean you could just look at that in me like,

[00:48:08] okay, so like she's not quite understanding that he has his independence.

[00:48:18] But in any input in those controls and at someone else who's doing it for him,

[00:48:25] in the probably woman.

[00:48:27] So, and she just- I think see that she broke a nail.

[00:48:29] That's unfortunate.

[00:48:32] Then they get to the hotel,

[00:48:35] they get to the room, she goes in the shower first,

[00:48:39] and while she's in the shower he's like,

[00:48:41] well it took half of a blue pill.

[00:48:44] Just case.

[00:48:45] I want to be prepared.

[00:48:46] So your take-in blue pills without first knowing whether or not you're going to have sex

[00:48:51] and then and only that your that presumptuous that she's going to give it up to him the first night.

[00:48:56] Inger does not come across with a woman who's going to give it up to you on the first night.

[00:48:59] She just doesn't.

[00:49:02] So what?

[00:49:03] But okay, I'm going to say full disclosure y'all.

[00:49:07] I'm out on Brian.

[00:49:08] I'm really disappointed but we'll get to it on my later episode.

[00:49:12] But in the next scene with him he wants to, you know,

[00:49:17] keep or he kind of says like sex or he's seen that normal sex is important to him.

[00:49:23] I think that's what he said.

[00:49:26] Even though he doesn't feel anything down there anymore,

[00:49:29] but it's about being kind of wanted that feeling of being wanted and having that connection.

[00:49:34] That's kind of what sex has kind of become for him.

[00:49:38] And he then asked like, can you help me take my jeans off?

[00:49:43] My guy.

[00:49:44] You really try to tell me that you can't,

[00:49:46] you've seen you change in the most of the unrest yourself.

[00:49:49] You're making her do the feels again.

[00:49:52] Cross.

[00:49:53] It feels a little predatory here.

[00:49:55] Take my jeans off.

[00:49:56] You know what I mean?

[00:49:56] Like, it'll take your own jeans off.

[00:49:59] What the hell's happening?

[00:50:02] And he's like, you know, give me your shoulders.

[00:50:05] What the hell?

[00:50:09] He...

[00:50:09] He just said, I can't take care of myself.

[00:50:13] But he does when he kind of with someone he might want to test them to see kind of where their limits are.

[00:50:19] On the first night, my guy.

[00:50:21] On the first night, you can't give in a minute.

[00:50:24] Jesus Christ.

[00:50:25] But he's going to take a shower.

[00:50:30] Is it hayingrid?

[00:50:32] You know, he's a carpeter, right?

[00:50:33] Oh, that's sexy.

[00:50:34] That's so sexy.

[00:50:36] Tell me about your carpeter.

[00:50:37] This will turn me on.

[00:50:39] What the hell?

[00:50:40] Westman, it was probably in this episode.

[00:50:42] I'm like, oh, you're gross.

[00:50:45] You're grossing me out here.

[00:50:46] Not because of the things that you have to do.

[00:50:48] That part doesn't gross me out.

[00:50:50] Full disclosure.

[00:50:50] My dad's in a wheelchair.

[00:50:52] That's not a part of it.

[00:50:52] That's how many of you can get at it.

[00:50:54] At all.

[00:50:55] It's not about that.

[00:50:56] Those things to me are kind of obvious.

[00:50:58] That part is not, it's this predatoryness that he's kind of going.

[00:51:03] I don't think that's a word that he's kind of going at with how he's doing this.

[00:51:09] Throwing her into the deep end with everything without giving her a minute.

[00:51:13] That's the part for me.

[00:51:15] That's this kind of like you're doing this to kind of, I guess, I don't know, fast track things

[00:51:19] and it's like take your time.

[00:51:21] Guess you guys have been talking for a couple of years, but you guys had not been together

[00:51:26] for this clean.

[00:51:27] I was a couple of years.

[00:51:29] So give her a minute to catch up like what the hell?

[00:51:32] Like I would say the same thing if this guy was able-bodied.

[00:51:37] If that's the term he used, I don't even know that's like politically correct term.

[00:51:42] But like, you know what I mean?

[00:51:45] It's just like, if he was doing all those things here, help me take my jeans off.

[00:51:50] Oh, by the way, do you know I do this?

[00:51:51] And it's like, it would still really gross me out.

[00:51:56] What is happening here?

[00:51:58] So yeah, he yells that out.

[00:52:00] He's like, you want to say how it's done?

[00:52:03] Because again, it's on about the calculator.

[00:52:05] I mean, probably for her that's going to be a block because he's never been exposed to that.

[00:52:11] I have a really been exposed to that either in that sense, but I know it's something that's done

[00:52:17] depending on your situation.

[00:52:18] But, it's not about that.

[00:52:21] It's about the fact that don't you have to show her your dick in order to show her how the catheter is put in?

[00:52:29] That part.

[00:52:30] That's what I'm trying to get up.

[00:52:33] And he says like the catheter is connected to a condom.

[00:52:41] So in order for it to work or for him to get it on,

[00:52:47] he kind of has to be partially erect to get into the condom, right?

[00:52:55] You can't go into the condom with the flacid penis, which makes sense, right?

[00:53:01] So he shows her the photo instructions of how to do it,

[00:53:06] which again is still too damn much.

[00:53:10] And she knows that this is a part of his life.

[00:53:14] But it's kind of weird that he's showing me all of this now.

[00:53:18] We just met physically.

[00:53:21] She says very overwhelming.

[00:53:23] And then he starts doing it,

[00:53:25] we're on the bed right beside her because he has to get erects.

[00:53:30] He has to get erects to do it.

[00:53:33] Now fully, but let's not forget he just took a blue pill so it's just a lot.

[00:53:38] And he has to think, again, wheelchair or not.

[00:53:45] The man is literally beside you, giving himself an erection.

[00:53:53] While you're too sick, there's really a space between the two of you while he's doing it.

[00:53:59] It feels just, you couldn't have done it in the bathroom,

[00:54:05] even if the door was left open.

[00:54:07] At least you're in a different part of the room, doing it.

[00:54:12] Why are you doing it right beside her?

[00:54:16] That is just, yeah, that's that.

[00:54:22] Yeah.

[00:54:25] And he's like, I'm not just respecting you, am I?

[00:54:28] Even if she says no, but even if she feels that way,

[00:54:34] she's telling you that, I don't believe.

[00:54:36] I think she feels, and I'm not insrospected, but just a little weirded out.

[00:54:43] It's your job to make sure she's not feeling that way,

[00:54:48] whether it's weirded out or just respected or whatever.

[00:54:50] And just do the right thing in this moment and not do that in front of her.

[00:54:57] Because it's not again about what you're doing or what you have to do,

[00:55:05] but that point, that part of it is, I'm sorry.

[00:55:09] If a man was doing that in front of me pretty much,

[00:55:12] and I've never met you before physically.

[00:55:15] We've never had anything like that before,

[00:55:17] and you're just getting your day card.

[00:55:19] It's just like, get away from me.

[00:55:22] That's such an uncomfortable feeling.

[00:55:26] And anyway, so he says people are usually okay with the chair itself,

[00:55:34] but it's everything else that comes with it, which is un-o-shannable from his perspective.

[00:55:39] Yes, that is true.

[00:55:41] But he is not, so yeah, anyway, he's not getting any tonight because, yikes.

[00:55:49] The basic situation is either, and they say tonight.

[00:55:54] That's that.

[00:55:55] Again, I don't know if you would have necessarily,

[00:55:58] I don't know if you would have had socks.

[00:55:59] I, again, like I said, I don't.

[00:56:02] Ingrid has not come across as a person who would have.

[00:56:05] I've talked with him on the first night, but to me, he may have gotten

[00:56:12] a little bit more affection out of her if it wasn't for,

[00:56:16] I think the thing that just broke the camel's back for her was,

[00:56:24] not someone's the catheter itself,

[00:56:28] but everything's surrounding it.

[00:56:31] And I think, man, like, the whole,

[00:56:33] I have to get myself an erection in order to get this into the quantum.

[00:56:36] It's just, I don't know, man.

[00:56:39] Anyway, that's if you're Brian and Ingrid,

[00:56:43] we're going to take a quick break here,

[00:56:45] and then we will all jump into the rest of the episode.

[00:56:56] And I am back, so let's jump into,

[00:57:00] we have a new couple,

[00:57:02] a new couple of alerts, do it.

[00:57:05] We have Sunny,

[00:57:07] we have 25, we'll let's do that Africa.

[00:57:10] And I think it's Deven,

[00:57:12] if I think I'll swim in that right.

[00:57:14] And Vaya, who is 27 and she is a rural land of Florida.

[00:57:19] So we're with him first, he is from Bangladesh.

[00:57:22] He said that his dad had moved out here seven years ago

[00:57:25] to work with, or he moved to South Africa seven years ago

[00:57:32] to work with his dad.

[00:57:34] I wrote here,

[00:57:36] his eyes are beautiful.

[00:57:41] Just beautiful.

[00:57:42] Every time I see him on the screen,

[00:57:44] I just stare at his eyes, they're gorgeous.

[00:57:47] He says in Deven that there are Muslims,

[00:57:51] Indians, people from Bangladesh, so he feels very

[00:57:53] at home, probably he lives with a friend of his,

[00:57:59] they've been friends for about five years.

[00:58:02] His friend is hot,

[00:58:04] he's a ally.

[00:58:08] He downloaded an international app,

[00:58:13] and that's where he met Vaya.

[00:58:15] He says her eyes are kind of the thing

[00:58:19] that probably drew him in.

[00:58:22] She said, it's her hair is beautiful.

[00:58:25] She will be there under the buddha week.

[00:58:30] And he kind of explains

[00:58:31] which we'll get a little more from her as well.

[00:58:33] The her childhood was very different.

[00:58:36] She was in the foster care system,

[00:58:39] and not I think near families when I wrote.

[00:58:42] Anyway, for him, he didn't have a great relationship

[00:58:45] with his father,

[00:58:50] but he says, I didn't kind of connect it on that

[00:58:53] for each other.

[00:58:54] But he does say that they do argue a lot.

[00:58:57] And things are getting better.

[00:58:58] He says that I will be,

[00:59:00] or like, I'll have the trust issues coming

[00:59:03] to the big thing.

[00:59:05] Because she has a friendship with her ex-boyfriend,

[00:59:08] Nate Worry, who we're going to be seeing quite a bit

[00:59:10] of in this episode.

[00:59:13] Well, I was right in the season.

[00:59:14] And he doesn't like that.

[00:59:17] But he doesn't think anything will really happen

[00:59:20] because over America, they're really nice.

[00:59:24] And they may keep friendships.

[00:59:27] No, no, we don't.

[00:59:29] No, we don't.

[00:59:30] And we are going to learn from her.

[00:59:33] And I think the next episode episode four

[00:59:37] that they got a history.

[00:59:39] They got a lot of history.

[00:59:42] And I don't know if I could stay friends with someone

[00:59:46] with that kind of history.

[00:59:49] You know what I mean?

[00:59:50] Like, yeah, I still look at that in the next episode.

[00:59:56] But he's like, I want it.

[00:59:59] But he's like, I want it for poster her.

[01:00:02] And his friend is like, I don't know how's a good idea.

[01:00:06] And he's like, you know, in America,

[01:00:08] they can do whatever they want in our culture

[01:00:11] that not only being evident as sent,

[01:00:15] but they're also Muslim.

[01:00:18] There is no freedom.

[01:00:19] Well, my guy, you were cute for like a second

[01:00:21] because you blow.

[01:00:24] And he's like, she's too forget all of that.

[01:00:28] And, you know, forget the axe, which

[01:00:32] culture, religion, aside, and maybe

[01:00:39] anyway.

[01:00:40] So sunny and his friend Ali there

[01:00:42] are going to the mosque that we see them praying

[01:00:45] and then which else to say about that though.

[01:00:47] They very devout them in the prayers.

[01:00:50] He very serious about his religion

[01:00:52] and all that.

[01:00:54] 24 hours earlier, where were they?

[01:00:59] She's really, really excited to go,

[01:01:01] but she hasn't ever been out of the country before.

[01:01:03] She has been on a plane.

[01:01:05] You know, nationally, but she has not traveled internationally.

[01:01:08] So it's kind of a big deal for her.

[01:01:11] She's pretty anxious about it.

[01:01:13] She's pretty anxious for us in general.

[01:01:16] Maybe that's because of her upbringing.

[01:01:19] And she gives us a little more information about that.

[01:01:21] So her mom had eight kids,

[01:01:24] but they were all separated

[01:01:25] because the parents struggled with substance abuse.

[01:01:30] And I think there were, I think there were

[01:01:34] more people who were in the hospital.

[01:01:35] But not everyone was obviously.

[01:01:38] So she says we cuts of that a lot of her anxiety.

[01:01:43] Also, so because of that, she has anxiety and she's

[01:01:47] worrying.

[01:01:48] She says that they have, again, in South Africa,

[01:01:52] they have the allergies.

[01:01:53] I didn't know.

[01:01:54] I don't know.

[01:01:56] I've kind of talked about this very briefly with my boyfriend before

[01:01:59] about the allergies and stuff like that.

[01:02:00] I didn't know the allergies happened throughout South Africa.

[01:02:04] I thought it was Justin Jobberg,

[01:02:06] but mainly in Jobberg.

[01:02:09] And I'm not saying only there, but mainly,

[01:02:11] but maybe happens more frequently in Jobberg.

[01:02:13] I don't know.

[01:02:16] I don't know.

[01:02:17] He can really answer that either because he is from Jobberg.

[01:02:20] So I don't know, but it's just like,

[01:02:22] I didn't realize that it was everywhere.

[01:02:26] But again, not surprising.

[01:02:29] So she says, she says, we're at about the power outages.

[01:02:35] She says, what do I phone doesn't work?

[01:02:38] And, well, keep your phone going as a museum.

[01:02:44] But her friend is like, you could use a converter

[01:02:48] because they would have different plugs there.

[01:02:51] Right?

[01:02:52] And she's like, well, what do you mean?

[01:02:54] They had her in plugs?

[01:02:56] Wait.

[01:02:57] So wait.

[01:02:58] She doesn't realize that there are different plugs in different countries.

[01:03:03] She doesn't. She doesn't know that.

[01:03:05] You don't have to be a traveler to know that.

[01:03:09] But that, okay.

[01:03:10] Just like, I thought our plugs were like all the same.

[01:03:15] She's like, why are you calling for Kate things?

[01:03:16] Less were.

[01:03:18] She's like a vlogger with this trip.

[01:03:20] We'll hopefully get engaged.

[01:03:22] And they do have things that they do have to work on,

[01:03:24] that communication and the jealousy.

[01:03:27] She says that she, he shocks her location.

[01:03:30] And apparently there was one time that he freaked out

[01:03:32] when I was at a front house.

[01:03:35] And he used me of cheating.

[01:03:36] I'm curious to know who that friend is.

[01:03:39] I have an idea.

[01:03:43] He's like, if she said if we get into arguments,

[01:03:47] I'll have no one there.

[01:03:48] We've been there to like, back me up

[01:03:51] or like, I can run to or whatever.

[01:03:53] So I'm kind of worried.

[01:03:58] And her friends are like, wait a minute, your, your ex?

[01:04:03] Y'all this bitch and invited her ex boyfriend to come

[01:04:06] on the trip with her because he's never traveled before

[01:04:08] and if they get into fights that she'll have the support

[01:04:11] of her ex boyfriend, are you kidding me?

[01:04:14] My boyfriend would kill me.

[01:04:16] Like, seriously, are you kidding me?

[01:04:19] Like you think like, it's going to be that bad

[01:04:21] like you really truly need to have support

[01:04:23] of your ex boyfriend.

[01:04:25] Like, you think your boyfriend's really going to put you

[01:04:26] in a situation where you're not going to have

[01:04:31] some form of support, you know what I mean?

[01:04:34] Like, yes, you might have an argument

[01:04:35] but the other day, this person's supposed to love you,

[01:04:38] you know what I mean?

[01:04:39] Like, you think it's going to be that bad?

[01:04:41] Wow!

[01:04:44] Just amazing.

[01:04:45] So, there are her friends like,

[01:04:47] I want to be my first choice.

[01:04:49] I want to be my neither.

[01:04:50] So, we do kind of learn that they were together

[01:04:53] for two years.

[01:04:56] And they basically broke up

[01:04:57] because they wanted different things in life.

[01:04:59] I'm really curious about what that is

[01:05:03] because with what we do find out,

[01:05:06] that's really interesting.

[01:05:07] I'm going to have theories

[01:05:08] which we find that out, not going to say here

[01:05:11] but so that it was an amicable breakup

[01:05:17] and we do find out though that there might be

[01:05:19] a little bit of tension between

[01:05:22] worry and sunny

[01:05:23] because apparently,

[01:05:25] he went onto sunnys and Instagram

[01:05:29] commenting, ha ha on sunnys and photos

[01:05:32] because he's like, why does he have a lot of mirror selfies?

[01:05:37] So when the sunny saw,

[01:05:38] as he's like, why does this guy keep

[01:05:40] commenting, ha ha on my pictures?

[01:05:42] And she's like, oh god.

[01:05:44] And that's what he wrote, he told her.

[01:05:47] But it's just like, my guy doesn't matter

[01:05:50] why he has a lot of mirror selfies.

[01:05:53] What's it to you?

[01:05:55] You know what I mean?

[01:05:56] To me, that feels like a next boyfriend

[01:05:58] who's trying to call his trauma

[01:06:00] because that's like an next boyfriend

[01:06:01] who's really jealous

[01:06:02] and he's no longer with her

[01:06:04] and you have to do something like that

[01:06:05] because she's childish on his part.

[01:06:07] Like, you know what I mean?

[01:06:08] It's weird.

[01:06:09] Who cares?

[01:06:10] Like, I just...

[01:06:13] It sounds like he might be still in love with her

[01:06:15] but it feels like to me or he's jealous

[01:06:17] of some case.

[01:06:18] I don't know.

[01:06:20] But she says, there is such an absolutely no way

[01:06:23] that I can go there without worry.

[01:06:25] Don't you have girlfriends or something

[01:06:27] who can go with you?

[01:06:28] You haven't won their travel a little time

[01:06:30] who had to tell you about the converter

[01:06:31] when I bring her

[01:06:33] because it wouldn't be trauma

[01:06:34] but anyways.

[01:06:38] She's like he has a experience

[01:06:39] with traveling

[01:06:40] but I didn't tell Sunny that he's coming.

[01:06:43] So what?

[01:06:44] What's her plan?

[01:06:46] You're not...

[01:06:47] He doesn't know.

[01:06:48] She's not planning on telling him

[01:06:50] until she's in South Africa.

[01:06:53] What the fuck?

[01:06:55] And for those people who watch the most recent episode

[01:06:57] knows that her plan is

[01:06:59] for him to just camp out in the airport

[01:07:01] I guess?

[01:07:01] Like, what's going on here?

[01:07:05] Anyway, her friend is like, oh boy.

[01:07:09] How does he react to things

[01:07:11] when you tell him things are kind of not great?

[01:07:17] And she's like, I mean, he has a reason

[01:07:19] to be upset.

[01:07:20] Like, I'm going to be with him

[01:07:21] so like, why couldn't he just understand?

[01:07:24] If the tables returned,

[01:07:27] they would you understand?

[01:07:30] I'm so like, I have no clue how to do this.

[01:07:33] Like, I've never traveled outside

[01:07:34] of me.

[01:07:36] Obviously, he's traveling internationally,

[01:07:37] but I...

[01:07:38] as a pretend, he's never traveled internationally before.

[01:07:41] I'm going to bring my ex-girlfriend with me

[01:07:43] to come travel.

[01:07:44] You know what I mean?

[01:07:46] He's...

[01:07:46] No one would take this lightly.

[01:07:49] Like I said, my boyfriend would kill me.

[01:07:52] I would kill him.

[01:07:53] Are you kidding?

[01:07:54] No way.

[01:07:56] It's over.

[01:07:57] It would be over.

[01:07:59] Yeah.

[01:08:00] Anyway, that's it for...

[01:08:06] for them.

[01:08:08] They will have only one more couple

[01:08:09] in this episode.

[01:08:10] It's not going to be very long.

[01:08:12] Thank God, because I love faith.

[01:08:16] I can't with Lauren.

[01:08:19] He's just...

[01:08:19] Okay.

[01:08:20] What? I'm going to go to Farah?

[01:08:21] Yeah, because we're not there yet.

[01:08:23] Blorning faith.

[01:08:25] So they're heading to the hotel.

[01:08:27] They go get his own room.

[01:08:30] Obviously, as we know,

[01:08:31] he's going to go shop or another going to go out

[01:08:33] and she's taking him to have Filipino food

[01:08:37] after he's shaward on that director.

[01:08:41] And...

[01:08:41] And she kind of explains, like, you know,

[01:08:43] people in the past or men in the past

[01:08:45] would block her as soon as they would find out

[01:08:48] that she was a transgender woman.

[01:08:52] So...

[01:08:53] She's like...so, you know, she...

[01:08:55] I think she's lowering herself

[01:08:56] because this guy accepts her.

[01:09:00] So he's like, I have, you know, a test for you.

[01:09:04] You know, a faith test for you.

[01:09:06] Yeah, that's a forward question.

[01:09:08] He's like, well, can I just help me learn more about you?

[01:09:12] And she says,

[01:09:13] no thanks.

[01:09:15] I'm not doing gruff on test.

[01:09:16] Like, with the hell?

[01:09:17] And I don't blame her.

[01:09:19] Like, what do you...

[01:09:20] How do you want to learn something about somebody?

[01:09:22] I'm not going to ask them if there are snakes

[01:09:25] and all continents in the mean?

[01:09:26] Like, that's not helping you learn about her.

[01:09:31] Anyway.

[01:09:36] Um...

[01:09:39] But...

[01:09:39] Is it we got 20 days to figure this out?

[01:09:41] Figure out each other?

[01:09:44] But...

[01:09:44] He understands that...

[01:09:45] Or is that...

[01:09:45] It's...or he understands that she wants to take it slow.

[01:09:48] But he thinks that it would be better

[01:09:51] to just...

[01:09:54] figure it all out if you get where we're going back.

[01:09:56] See whether or not there's actually compatible.

[01:09:59] You know, sooner rather than later.

[01:10:02] And this is like...

[01:10:04] Well, the thought we found out later...

[01:10:07] I think it's better if we wait later.

[01:10:09] You know?

[01:10:10] We'll talk about that in another episode.

[01:10:13] But that's...

[01:10:14] That basically had been episode three again.

[01:10:16] I know late, but...

[01:10:18] You know...

[01:10:20] We're a brilliant in through it.

[01:10:22] But...

[01:10:22] But yeah, that is it for episode three.

[01:10:28] So the next thing you guys can expect to catch from me...

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