Love is Blind- S7 E7 "Truth Bombs"/ E8 "Dirty Laundry"

[00:00:11] Welcome to Reality Tea Times Two, a podcast where we discuss all the trash reality TV we love to hate. I'm Tanyka, and today we are going to be discussing Love is Blind. I know I said that I was going to be taking a break and going to the 90-day universe again because it's been a minute, but I'm so close. I can taste. I am catching up, y'all.

[00:00:33] I have just finished, I think, episode 10, so I'm getting there, and I'm just plowing through at this point. So that's what we're going to do. We're going to just finish up Love is Blind as much as possible, and hopefully maybe by the end of the week we can get back to some 90-day.

[00:00:50] So, let's just get into it. So, I don't know how we're going to be doing this episode, if we're going to have more than one Love is Blind episode in one of my episodes. So, we're just going to kind of ride the wave and see where we get to. But let's just jump right in.

[00:01:08] So, episode 7, season 7, Truth Bombs. So, Ramses and Marissa, we see them on a yacht. She loves boats, kind of just goes back to her marine days.

[00:01:21] And I'm sorry, so this might be a little bit of a break, but hopefully I finished up with Ramses and Marissa properly, so that's not too weird.

[00:01:30] So, we're with Tim and Alex, and he says that he's willing to keep exploring this with her. And she says, you know, she's willing to listen more.

[00:01:43] And they're supposed to be going ATVing together, so they kind of need to see what's going to happen next after that.

[00:01:55] So, then we have Tyler and Ashley, and they're going camel riding. And they talk about family traditions, creating new traditions with, you know, potential children within their own family, and kind of what that will look like for them.

[00:02:19] Then we have Nick and Hannah, and they're going bungee jumping. They seem to have a lot of fun with it. And Nick says, I will never do that again.

[00:02:29] And he says, hopefully I can still have kids after this. Like, Jesus. And then she gets weak in the knees, or she feels weak in the knees after doing bungee jumping, which is the same feeling she gets when they are in love, quote unquote.

[00:02:46] So, Monica talks to Stephen about the actions behind the words.

[00:02:57] Kind of the biggest conversation, or the biggest topic here is that she said that I would buy you flowers and do that. And she's like, where are my flowers at?

[00:03:06] And then I said, girl, you can buy yourself flowers, okay? You don't need this man to buy you flowers.

[00:03:11] I was actually getting really annoyed by constantly hearing her talk about flowers, flowers, flowers.

[00:03:17] Oh, look, those are flowers. See, those are flowers. I want those flowers.

[00:03:20] I like these flowers. It was getting a little bit annoying. And it's like, okay, girl, shut up about flowers.

[00:03:25] Seriously. But I do understand what she's saying here about having the actions behind the words.

[00:03:33] And she says, you know, her love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts.

[00:03:43] And Stephen says that he's like, yeah, I know I said that.

[00:03:47] You know, I think he kind of comes up with these excuses as to why he can't do certain things.

[00:03:52] And honestly, like a gift doesn't have to be a big, significant thing. It could be something small.

[00:03:58] It's just the gifts or the acts of service. It just could be really small.

[00:04:04] It's the intention behind it.

[00:04:07] And then they kind of talk about, she kind of says like, you know, I love to have like a,

[00:04:12] she always says like, you know, I can't always go out there and get you the Kate Spade bag or something.

[00:04:16] And she says, I don't want the Kate Spade bag. And a Louis Vuitton would be better, but she used to

[00:04:23] like be the acronym. And he's like, I never heard of that before. She's like, you never heard of

[00:04:29] Louis Vuitton? And he's like, no, I've never heard of Louis Vuitton before. Wow. What rock have you

[00:04:34] been living under that you've never heard of a Louis Vuitton or just heard of Louis Vuitton?

[00:04:41] What? I don't own a Louis Vuitton, but at least I know what a Louis Vuitton is, you know?

[00:04:50] But I do find though, she is a little materialistic. She kind of says that she's not or whatever. But

[00:04:57] to me, for you to throw out to this man who yes, is your fiance, but you just met,

[00:05:03] you can buy me a Louis Vuitton girl. Yikes. But he says that I don't want to disappoint.

[00:05:13] But, you know, it is a huge decision. And all of a sudden we're talking about, I want to disappoint

[00:05:17] you in terms of gifts or acts of service or stuff like that, or words of affirmation. But then we

[00:05:22] turn to, it's a huge decision talking about the marriage. And she's like, whoa, like what? So she

[00:05:28] asked him to clarify, what do you mean? It's a big decision. And he says, well, the marriage.

[00:05:35] And we just have this confusing conversation about that, whether or not he's second guessing

[00:05:38] things. He claims that he's not. She thinks that he is. I mean, again, I can understand why she thinks

[00:05:44] he is because how do we get from one conversation to this conversation? Like that's interesting to her.

[00:05:52] And she's like, you know, it feels like you're second guessing. And he says he doesn't want to

[00:05:57] feel forced. My guy, you came on this show knowing what's going to happen. No one forced you. If you

[00:06:06] didn't want to be on, or you didn't want to be married yet, you didn't like the speed of this

[00:06:12] process, you didn't need to sign up for it. That makes me think that you came on here for the clout,

[00:06:18] than the wife. So we'll talk more about Steven a little later. So we got ATV with Tim and Alex.

[00:06:29] And they go over this bridge that's really high up and really narrow and really scary. And I don't

[00:06:34] think so. So he tells her that he still loves her. But let's leave that there in the past. It is what

[00:06:43] it is. And let's start a new page. So they're going to try to make this work. And he is going

[00:06:50] to go back to the hotel room and we're going to be just fine. We're going to be fine.

[00:06:56] So we got another group hang. Steven is like, you got to ride a camel? I want to ride a camel.

[00:07:06] And Alex tells the ladies about what happened with her and Tim. But then it gets interrupted by

[00:07:14] fireworks. Now this is important. So Monica wants to go watch the fireworks. And she asked,

[00:07:20] Steven, oh, can you come with me and watch the fireworks? But him and Garrett are having a pretty

[00:07:27] conversation of some sort. And he's like, in a minute. Well, he never does come and see the

[00:07:31] fireworks with her because he's having this deep conversation with Garrett. That's what he says.

[00:07:36] After it's done, she kind of goes back to him and she's like, wow, that was so romantic, wasn't it?

[00:07:43] So romantic. Thanks for coming, babe. Now passive aggressive, but I definitely understand. I think

[00:07:49] I would probably have done the same thing in the moment. Not saying it's bright, but that's what's up.

[00:07:55] Then he comes by to her because he can tell like, oh shit, I'm in the doghouse. I need to kind of do

[00:08:00] better. You need something, you need a drink. I'm going to get that drink for you. It's going to be

[00:08:05] great. It's going to be fine. So he's clearly, you know, trying to make it better. And Steven then

[00:08:12] explains to both her and Taylor, this again, another weird conversation, another word salad of a

[00:08:18] conversation, but we're going to break it down as much as possible because this was kind of where I

[00:08:25] decided, oh, I'm out on Steven. There's something not right with him. I'm so sorry that I got bamboozled

[00:08:32] because I did. We'll talk about it. I'm sure a lot of us know already, but I'm just trying to say,

[00:08:37] like, I'm just like, I got bamboozled because I'm like, what is this conversation and why are we having

[00:08:42] it? So he says to them that, you know, me and Garrett having this moment where we were having

[00:08:51] a serious conversation or whatever, didn't want to interrupt that for fireworks. Okay, fine. I mean,

[00:08:57] not great, but because you're here, yes, you're here to hang with everybody else, but at the end of

[00:09:01] the day, you're still here to connect with your partner. So, but whatever, that's fine. Then he

[00:09:06] starts talking about, you know, we just got to make sure there's not going to be any homewreckers

[00:09:11] because you kind of want to show like this, like people are just going to want to like slide into

[00:09:15] your DMs and shit like that. And you potentially can get your dick sucked by just a random person.

[00:09:21] And I'm sitting here being like, wait, wait, wait, wait, how do we get from fireworks to

[00:09:28] conversation with Garrett that couldn't be interrupted for fireworks to homewreckers and dick sucking?

[00:09:33] How do we get here? How do we get here? I'm so confused. So to me, it feels like he's hoping

[00:09:41] that a woman is going to come and do his DMs and want to suck his dick, I guess. I don't know.

[00:09:47] Because again, it kind of makes me think that because when I'm seeing him constantly talking

[00:09:54] about how much he can get hard, how quickly he can get hard, how much he wants to have sex and all

[00:09:59] of this, that I feel like you're pitching your OnlyFans or something, or you're pitching yourself

[00:10:04] out there for women who maybe want to take a bite. You know what I mean? It's weird.

[00:10:10] So we'll leave that there for now. We will be coming, circling back to that in a little bit.

[00:10:16] So now we're leaving Cabo, going back to reality. Of course, we have Nick and Vanessa here to tell us.

[00:10:23] We're getting our phones back and shit like that, whatever. And we're going to be living together

[00:10:31] and blah, blah, blah. So the apartments are quite nice or simple. They're nothing to go home about

[00:10:40] or anything like that, but it's nice. It's comfortable. It's spacious enough for two people.

[00:10:45] It's great. Anna and Nick talk about what they can do within the household and stuff like that.

[00:10:55] And she's like, listen, I'm more sure, okay? And at least I'm more emotionally intelligent and just

[00:11:02] intelligent. She's so full of herself that I can't wait to talk about when her parents knock her down

[00:11:08] a few pegs in the nicest way possible, but they do. Monica, I wrote here, Anissa said about the flowers

[00:11:18] because I feel like we've talked about flowers about 30 times in the space of this episode.

[00:11:24] And I said, there's your orchid. There's your flower. No, shut up. Because there was like an,

[00:11:28] I think it was like a purple orchid in the apartment. So I'm like, there's your orchid.

[00:11:34] Or your flower. So Garrett and Taylor are looking at each other's social media. It's nothing too crazy.

[00:11:42] She seems to be fine with it. He loves fish so much that he literally is probably on every

[00:11:49] fish page possible on Facebook. So there's nothing really much here to worry about. He's like,

[00:11:59] or I think she says, one of them says, you're the best catch of them all. Get it? Get it? Catch?

[00:12:07] Fish? Get it? Oh God. So then Tim doesn't like to cuddle. He's not a cuddly person. He just wants to be

[00:12:15] able to sleep. He says he's wasn't asleep. No one wants that. Blah, blah, blah. I get it. I get it.

[00:12:21] I do. I, anyway, I couldn't sleep and cuddle. I couldn't do it. Leave me alone. Leave me alone.

[00:12:31] Let me sleep in peace. Anyway, so Monica, no, I'm sorry, not Monica, Marissa. She wants to have a

[00:12:41] wedding or she wants people coming in black and she's going to be in white. And then I literally

[00:12:47] thought it's a nice day for white wedding. It's literally what I was thinking about because like

[00:12:52] black and then she's in white and whatever. So she loves the color black, but I'm sorry to be a

[00:13:03] nitpicker, but black is not a color. It is a shade. Black, gray, white. I think brown too. Is brown

[00:13:11] considered a shade? I might be wrong with brown, but I know for a fact black, white, gray are not colors.

[00:13:16] They are shades. Different. You like that's your favorite shade. So it's not a color. But anyway,

[00:13:28] so Taylor and Garrett are going to Fredericksburg to meet his parents. We have, um, Don thinks his mom's

[00:13:39] name. We have, um, Randy is his dad's name. Deanna is his sister, Michaela and Tristan, who are his

[00:13:47] niece and nephew. Tristan, y'all with a Y, not an I. Tristan. It's Tristan. Anyway, Taylor's parents

[00:13:57] didn't want to participate necessarily in all this because they weren't, I don't think they were

[00:14:02] really for this whole process, which is okay. But they know how important this is to him. So they

[00:14:08] will go along with this and, um, sorry, Taylor's parents. I'm getting confused. Taylor's parents

[00:14:17] don't want to participate, but they will do this because they do want to meet him, get their eyes on

[00:14:22] him. There we go. That's it. Um, so that's, you know, she's at least getting that. I think we will

[00:14:28] see her mom, but we won't see her dad because he doesn't want to be on camera, but they will at least

[00:14:34] meet. So it's, we don't have to see. As long as they're meeting, it's fine. We don't have to see

[00:14:40] everything. So it's okay. Um, they say like, you know, it is so fast. Um, but you know, they're

[00:14:48] going to be doing what needs to be done. She says, you know, they are taking this kind of process day

[00:14:54] by day because it, because it is moving so fast. And I think Chris's mom has reservations,

[00:14:59] which is, you know, we check in on each other. Um, and ultimately, you know,

[00:15:06] what's best for him at the end of the day is what's going to be best for me. What's going to be best

[00:15:10] for us. So I think they're handling this as best as they can. And I think as hard as it's going to

[00:15:17] be for the family to catch up to this, just let them do as they will and it'll all work out.

[00:15:25] Hopefully Ram this, we see him cooking and she's texting him the whole time and says he's doing

[00:15:30] so, but she wasn't home and she comes in and, um, he's like, yeah, you've been texting me dirty

[00:15:35] stuff all the way here. She's like, oh my God, you're going to say that out loud. Cause we don't

[00:15:40] know you cause we're having sex apparently. But anyway, she apparently lives in Baltimore and

[00:15:47] I'm not going to sing y'all. I'm not going to do it. Um, okay. I'm fine.

[00:15:55] It's fine. It's okay. So, but anyway, she lives in Baltimore. She also does classes in Baltimore.

[00:16:01] So she's saying that the travel is horrific from DC to Baltimore. Um, I'm not sure how far

[00:16:08] that is, but, oh, she says it's about two hours. I'm assuming two hours one way, which is,

[00:16:13] that's horrific. And she says the, when he's, so he's cooking and once the, the cooking is done and

[00:16:23] they're eating, she says, well, the food is, um, it's a little raw. She says that the noodles are,

[00:16:31] there's al dente and then there's holy shit al dente. And his is the holy shit al dente.

[00:16:37] So he didn't really cook it all the way through. I did wonder, did you test it? You have to check

[00:16:42] your noodles before you say they're cooked just to be sure that they're cooked. But anyways, um,

[00:16:48] they talk about the, the wedding officiant and kind of what they kind of both maybe expect to have as

[00:16:54] their officiant. She wants a woman. So no cesthetero males. Okay. And she says she's good with having a

[00:17:03] spiritual officiant and he seems okay with, with that. Not sure how his mom's going to take it

[00:17:09] because she is very religious. So I think she would prefer to see a religious officiant, but at

[00:17:14] the end of the day, this is not her wedding. This is their wedding. And she is Mormon. Apparently,

[00:17:22] I did not know this. Did we know this before? I don't know if you've ever heard about this, but

[00:17:26] she's Mormon. So I think under those circumstances, I think he's Christian of some sort.

[00:17:33] I think a spiritual officiant will be fine. Um, she says, I don't hate religion, but she does want,

[00:17:42] um, she wants no part of that in her wedding, which I think is, I get it. But then the big part

[00:17:50] of this conversation was this one. And I had feelings. I have issues. I have it all. They talk

[00:17:58] about the military for her. And she says that, you know, what they kind of do in other countries,

[00:18:08] obviously she has a problem with, but in the end of the day, she does support the military.

[00:18:13] That's her whole life is military. Um, she was a military brat. Like that's,

[00:18:20] that's an army brat. It's the birth term to use. She, so this has been really her whole life.

[00:18:26] She's always lived on the base. She's, you know, as a kid, she's, she's done it as an adult. Like

[00:18:31] this is her life. Um, so obviously just generally speaking, she's still going to support something

[00:18:38] that she's known her whole life. And she does think that we need it at this point because we have

[00:18:46] done some fuck shit in other countries. So we don't want to be in a vulnerable state. So you do

[00:18:52] need to have some form of military. Um, and he says, you know, I don't know if I really agree with

[00:19:03] that. I don't remember where he's from. I think he's in Venezuela. So he does have a little bit of,

[00:19:09] um, an issue with what the state has kind of done to Venezuela or whichever country he is from. Again,

[00:19:15] I think he said Venezuela, but I could be wrong. Um, and he kind of has a problem with that just

[00:19:22] from his own experiences, um, from what his country has dealt with. And he says, I mean,

[00:19:28] you have to sign up for it. Like you make a choice to sign up for something that maybe isn't very

[00:19:34] beneficial. You're not being forced into the military as you would have been in much earlier years.

[00:19:47] But that is what people do. This is the country. This is how the country operates. Every country

[00:19:54] is different, mind you, but this is how the country operates. Canada operates as well. So it's just like

[00:20:00] you, like, there's nothing wrong with someone wanting to do that. I know there's a whole,

[00:20:07] you know, patriotism alongside that, but everyone has their reasons for doing something. And some people

[00:20:15] want to fight for their country. And there's nothing wrong with that, no matter how you may feel about

[00:20:21] something. People are doing something that most people wouldn't want to do. Um, it's not an easy

[00:20:29] thing to do. I'm sure I can only speak as a person who's not been through this, but I'm sure there's

[00:20:37] some not so easy decisions that need to be made. And some things that people will find really difficult

[00:20:42] to live with. But that is a choice that they've made. Now, what she does say here that I do agree

[00:20:49] with her on is that she says maybe because you do have a lot of young people going in and enlisting,

[00:20:55] you're enlisting at 18, you have really no clue what you're getting yourself into. Maybe there needs

[00:21:00] to be more understanding from an 18 year old's perspective, what you're getting yourself into.

[00:21:05] I a thousand percent agree with that. Um, but she also does say when you are setting up young under

[00:21:13] how the, how things are now, you don't fully understand what you're getting yourself into.

[00:21:18] But would she change that decision? No, she wouldn't. Um, but she does say to him,

[00:21:26] I'm feeling a little bit judged right now because this is a part of my life. This is who I am. This

[00:21:32] is, I, I, she explains to him here that I've lived on base since I was two. Like, this is what I know.

[00:21:41] And I'm feeling judged for that. And that's the problem I have here is you can have your views and

[00:21:47] you're entitled to your views as she's entitled to hers, but to literally sit there and judge her for

[00:21:54] the decision that she's made. You're not only judging her, but you're also judging just a group

[00:22:01] of people who are doing something that most people wouldn't even dream to do and doing the stuff that is,

[00:22:12] whether you agree or disagree are things that like is tough to do and creates and gives the freedoms that

[00:22:23] we now know today. Now, I think a lot of us have been a lot more educated in the war in Afghanistan

[00:22:31] post 9-11. I think that's a war that could have been avoided. Absolutely. Do I understand a country

[00:22:40] going in and defending themselves against a threat? Yes. But I'm just saying, I think we've been very much

[00:22:48] educated as to the war in Afghanistan. And it's frustrating because, I mean, we talk about the

[00:22:56] lives lost in Afghanistan on all levels. But then also it was people we've lost here in my country as

[00:23:04] well for peacemaking purposes going to that war. But that's just, we've been educated. But I'm going to

[00:23:14] go back to the world war. I think that's a lot of people who are going to be able to do this. And

[00:23:20] whatever, you know, whatever war that, you know, goes back in time here that has created and given us

[00:23:26] the freedoms that we didn't have before. For you to sit there and say to someone who this means a lot

[00:23:35] to them and other people who are going to watch the show where that means a lot to them. And whether

[00:23:42] you're a part of it, as you as a person, a part of it or have family, a part of it, I don't have

[00:23:49] family, a part of it. But it means a lot to me to know that there were people willing to sacrifice

[00:23:54] themselves to do something that I don't think I could have ever done. So for you to sit here and

[00:24:02] judge someone for that, it's so just incorrect, wrong, whether you agree with it or not, a lot of

[00:24:13] that has given people the lives and the freedoms that they now have as a country as a whole that we

[00:24:21] just didn't have before. So I have huge problem with him judging her for something that he doesn't

[00:24:30] need to judge her for. You have your views and that is okay. You can have your thoughts and your

[00:24:35] feelings on it and that is okay. Whether someone, you don't have to agree with it and that's okay.

[00:24:41] Because remember, you don't always have to agree with someone's opinions. But for you to literally

[00:24:46] just be like, well, I probably wouldn't have said yes to you or proposed to you if you were still in the

[00:24:54] Marines. That's really fucked and really just really mean. But she says to him, you know, I was thinking

[00:25:05] about signing up for the reserves. She didn't end up doing it because she didn't want to be a part of

[00:25:12] that atmosphere anymore. But she did contemplate going into the reserves. And she says, if I did,

[00:25:19] like, you probably would have not even gone much further with me. And he admits, yeah, I wouldn't have.

[00:25:27] And it's just, I don't, personally for me as a person who is not a part of the military, whether,

[00:25:36] whatever section of the military you're a part of, as a person who's not a part of that, I have huge

[00:25:42] issues with what he said here. So I can only imagine how that makes her feel. That's a horrible

[00:25:49] thing to say to somebody. But that's that. That's the end of episode seven. So we are going to do the

[00:25:59] next episode in this episode. So we're going to take a quick break here. And when we come back,

[00:26:02] we will jump in with episode eight. And I am back. So let's jump in with episode eight,

[00:26:18] titled Dirty Laundry. So we got Steven and Monica at a flower shop. And they're,

[00:26:26] she's very excited because flowers, y'all flowers. And we're basically going to be kind of doing

[00:26:31] signs with the term, the flattened out flowers. And Monica, Monica's dad does not want to be

[00:26:45] on camera. He doesn't want to be involved in any of this. And you don't want to think that's a sign,

[00:26:49] but he does want to meet Steven. So at least that, and he does also want to walk her down the aisle.

[00:26:56] I guess he just doesn't want the focus on him per se. So that's kind of the next best thing.

[00:27:01] So he doesn't want to be involved. I mean, I think he shouldn't be, but anyways. So that's that.

[00:27:09] We got Hannah and Nick, and we found out here that he lives at his parents' house.

[00:27:14] Shit. He's 28 years. I mean, I don't have an issue with someone living at home. I live at home.

[00:27:19] It is what it is. Times are tough. It is what it is. And he's a real estate agent, probably getting

[00:27:24] his footing and stuff like that. It's really hard industry. So I don't have an issue with him living

[00:27:29] at home, but I know there will be an issue with him living at home for Hannah. So yikes.

[00:27:37] So they go to see his place. His parents are not there yet. She will meet them later. His mom is

[00:27:43] very Catholic, y'all. She has the candles lit everywhere in the bathroom, in the kitchen,

[00:27:48] in the living room, everywhere. Like we all know. We all know a Catholic's out there.

[00:27:55] Like we know of candle that symbolizes Catholicism when we see one. Because I have all these candles.

[00:28:02] I'm like, oh, that unlocked a memory that I didn't need. But they're there. So she's, yeah,

[00:28:11] very Catholic. And Hannah's not. So this is going to be interesting. But we do meet his cat named,

[00:28:22] I think it's Peaky or Pinky or whatever. Then we go to the basement where he lives. And he shows her

[00:28:31] his first stuffed animal whose name is Buffy. So then I thought, so did you watch Buffy the Vampire

[00:28:40] Slayer? Like everyone else did in the 90s and early on? Because anytime I hear the name Buffy, I'm like,

[00:28:46] that's not a name we all just threw out there one day. Let's be real. Buffy is very unique to Buffy

[00:28:54] the Vampire Slayer. So I'm like, you are a Buffy fan. And that gives you points with me. That really

[00:28:59] does. Nonetheless, he would have been really young though, because he's 28, 33. And I watched Buffy

[00:29:10] when I was younger. But anyway. So he said he's lived in the basement for about two years.

[00:29:16] And he says, let's just move on right in here. And she's like, yeah, no, we're going to move into

[00:29:21] my apartment because I don't want to live here with your parents. I think that's fair.

[00:29:26] Ramses is meeting Marissa's friends and Brenda. That one there, Brenda, she looked terrified.

[00:29:34] She didn't want to cry the whole time. It was weird. But they talk about the whole military

[00:29:39] conversation. And I don't know if both of them have been in the military or all three,

[00:29:44] I think it was three friends. I don't think all three of them were in the military, but one of

[00:29:48] them was. So when they're having this conversation, her friends are like, yikes. And they do ask him,

[00:29:56] like, if she wanted to go back, like, would you divorce her? And he straight up says yes.

[00:30:01] And her friends are like, so wait, wait, wait. That's so unclear. You will divorce her just

[00:30:06] because she wants to go back into the Marines and you're going to have a problem with that? I just

[00:30:12] want to be clear. Oh, sorry. She's on the Marines guy. She's in the Navy. I keep saying the Marines.

[00:30:16] I knew that was incorrect. Navy. She was in the Navy. So I'm just like, I agree. Because like,

[00:30:24] that's such a stupid reason to divorce somebody. And her friends were like, you know, this was a

[00:30:34] part of her life. And I know I did, because again, I don't have a lot of understanding experience with

[00:30:45] this because again, I am not American. But from what I kind of understood from listening to

[00:30:51] 90 Day Cray-Cray to talk about it was that I think a lot of, and I think Parisa did mention this as

[00:30:58] well. So I think that's probably why I forgot this, that a lot of people in the military are

[00:31:03] conservative. So he then, I guess, purports military to MAGA, which, okay, fine, especially because she

[00:31:14] says that that's very conservative. But let's not forget here. I don't see an issue with a military

[00:31:25] being 80, even 90% Republican or conservative. I don't see the issue with that. The issue with MAGA,

[00:31:38] or make America great again, is that is something that a very idiotic Oompa Loompa troped during his

[00:31:47] first campaign season. So that has nothing to do with what the military stands for. And I think it's

[00:31:59] actually really problematic for him to put those two things together. I think a lot of people who are

[00:32:07] mega supporters or whatever are people who are a part of the 1%-ish, I'm not using that as, I know,

[00:32:16] that's not the percentage. I'm sure it's higher than that. But you're the quote unquote 1% that are

[00:32:23] also QAnon believers. And I'm going to say this straight up right now, QAnon believers are not in

[00:32:29] the military. I'm just saying that right now. They're doing their own thing. Nicely put.

[00:32:38] They're not in the military. They probably, no. I mean, I'm sure there are some. I'm not saying that,

[00:32:44] I'm just saying the general are not. Because I feel like you need to pass a psychology test.

[00:32:50] And I feel like a lot of those people are not going to. I'm just saying. So I hear what he is

[00:32:57] saying. But I think it is problematic to put MAGA into that. Because that just,

[00:33:06] I think it's just disrespectful. Straight up, I think it's very disrespectful for what

[00:33:11] the military is supposed to be. I'm not saying the military is great. I'm not saying they're perfect.

[00:33:16] Trust me, they're not. But I'm just saying, I think that's really disrespectful for what

[00:33:21] the military is supposed to stand for and what it's supposed to do. So I'm just,

[00:33:27] I don't particularly like that. I think he's very ill-informed or misinformed. And again,

[00:33:33] you're entitled to your opinions. But I think your opinions should also not be problematic as well.

[00:33:42] With that said, they do kind of talk about kids and kind of, they kind of bring this up and say,

[00:33:50] listen, you have your views on the military. She has her views on the military. So how is that going

[00:33:54] to work for children? Because she's going to have her views, you're going to have yours,

[00:34:00] and they're not, they're clashing. So he says like he would, you know, tell his goods kind of,

[00:34:08] I guess to kind of mirror his views on the military. But she also says, listen, if my kids want to

[00:34:15] enlist, like I'm going to support them on that. And I would hope that Ramses would also support

[00:34:21] them on that. And he says at the end of the day, it is their choice they can do as they want their

[00:34:25] adults, they can do what they want. But like, my question is the way you're so quick to divorce

[00:34:31] your wife because she is potentially may want to enlist again or sign up for the reserves or

[00:34:39] whatever. Like, the way you're so quick on that, are you quick to disown your kids because they're

[00:34:46] doing something that you don't agree with? That's the question. And I think that's the part that I

[00:34:51] was kind of hoping for from him. But he kind of says like, you know, I love my, I love my kids and

[00:34:57] blah, blah, blah. Sure. But where is that same energy with your wife? There should still be that

[00:35:03] unconditional love with your wife the way there is that very different, but that same kind of

[00:35:07] unconditional love with your kids. So that's what I mean. Like, you should be able to love the person

[00:35:13] unconditionally. And something like them wanting to do their, what they view as their civil duty

[00:35:20] is kind of incorrect and I find wrong. And it kind of had a bad taste in my mouth with him

[00:35:26] after this. So then Tim and Alex are cooking and they're talking and he's meeting her family.

[00:35:37] And her dad does not know, as we kind of know, that they are supposed to be getting married.

[00:35:43] So he's going to be talking to her dad separately to basically ask for her hand in marriage.

[00:35:50] So we have her brothers and her parents are here and her dad is kind of maybe a little bit uneasy

[00:35:55] about this. And, um, she, or he comes back in cause he was outside doing the cooking and

[00:36:04] best he kind of reduces himself here and whenever. So they talk about how they align and they talk

[00:36:10] about the argument very briefly. They don't go into a lot of details and the food he cooked

[00:36:16] was really good. And they connect, uh, Tim and her dad connect on the fact that they were both

[00:36:23] born in England. So they're kind of connecting on that. I think they're also both sports people.

[00:36:28] So I think they connected on that too. I don't remember. But then the conversation kind of about

[00:36:33] what happened between, um, Tim and Alex in terms of the proposal. Um, uh, so I think at this point,

[00:36:44] Alex and everyone else has kind of laughed and it's just him and her dad. And he reads the letter to her,

[00:36:49] to him, sorry, about what, uh, the, what he read to Alex in the proposal. And he says that, uh, her dad

[00:36:56] says, you know, she's my baby girl, you know, we just met, but I believe you. I believe in you and I

[00:37:04] believe your words. And he says that, um, you know, you're my son. I, you know, I see you as my son

[00:37:15] or I accept you as my son. And for me, that's really got me. I got really emotional actually

[00:37:20] watching this. Um, I don't know really why I just got a little emotional because I do relate with Alex,

[00:37:26] um, with her dad having MS. So I think that's kind of maybe where it came from for me and, uh,

[00:37:32] kind of saying, you know, he now has mobile and, um, even his speech has been affected. And, um,

[00:37:42] it's, it got me because I'm like, I, I get it. I understand. And it made me really, really sad,

[00:37:51] not the right word to use, but just emotional, I guess, because I totally get it. Um, um,

[00:37:59] she's very protective of her dad and I, and I, and I get it. Um, so then we're with Taylor and Garrett

[00:38:06] at her apartment and she does live in the basement of her friend's house and, um,

[00:38:17] she only has protein shakes and wine in her fridge. I guess she's never really home

[00:38:23] home and they are not aligned on, um, kind of what, like where they will, I think, live,

[00:38:32] um, after this whole process. And he would rather live in Fredericksburg and she would rather live

[00:38:38] in San Diego. Well then, uh, you'd be on the same side of the planet. So there's that. Um,

[00:38:49] so then they're going to have that conversation as to where they will live. So Steven, we find out

[00:38:56] lost his job and, you know, he kind of feeling a little bit embarrassed by it, I think a little

[00:39:05] bit, but she says, listen, I got your back. Um, we're gonna be fine. It's, it's fine. And yeah.

[00:39:11] Yeah. And then they start talking about sex a little bit here and they talk about the fact that

[00:39:18] he likes to constantly quote unquote accidentally stick his sword into her butt. Um, and if you get

[00:39:28] that reference, you're my peeps. There was a, back in the day, people would still film, people get

[00:39:33] some teeth pulled and there is a sword in my arm. That was my favorite video. But anyways, I'm just

[00:39:39] talking at my ass. It's fine. But I wrote here, he really loves sex. Like he's obsessed with sex,

[00:39:47] but he says he's obsessed with her vagina, which means y'all that means cause he's so obsessed with

[00:39:55] her vagina. He goes down y'all and he goes down forever. Like he's, he's forever, like forever.

[00:40:04] Ever. So yeah. He says, you know, take the lead on how ready you are with, with stuff. And, um,

[00:40:19] and they kind of say, so what about anal? What about that? Is that a possibility? And this conversation

[00:40:26] was great. The last great conversation we're ever going to get. So then we see Hannah, um,

[00:40:32] cleaning a lot. She seems to be kind of a clean freak. She kind of is like, um, the dad in Full

[00:40:40] House. She loves to clean. Um, anyway, she would love if he could kind of take the trash out without

[00:40:47] her asking him to. She vacuums every day, she says, which is a lot. Um, he kind of would do it

[00:40:56] every two weeks, which I think is not enough. I think a week is a happy medium to dust. Um, she

[00:41:02] does, um, once a week. That's a lot. Twice a week in my house. Um, she does deep cleaning every Sunday,

[00:41:11] cleaning the walls, the baseboard, stuff like that, which is a lot. Um, they do talk about splitting

[00:41:20] the bills, um, the rent and stuff like that. Um, but then we do find out that he is on his parents'

[00:41:26] car insurance. And she says, are you going to stay on their insurance? Are you going to come back?

[00:41:30] I'm going to come on to my insurance. Um, and they also say, like, are you going to pay your own

[00:41:41] insurance? Because, um, like, because he's on his parents' insurance, but he doesn't actually, like,

[00:41:49] pay. He's also on his parents' phone bill, and he doesn't pay that either. And he says, well, I mean,

[00:41:55] if they want to keep paying, I'm like, why would I tell them not to? Because you're grown. My God,

[00:41:59] you're grown. Like, I don't have a problem with him being on his parents' stuff, but you should be

[00:42:04] contributing to that in some sense. So, it's, yeah. Um, and then we kind of have this conversation

[00:42:13] about stocks because he doesn't know shit about shit about stocks. I mean, I know, generally speaking,

[00:42:18] what stocks are, and I know how they operate, and I know how it works, but not everyone is

[00:42:23] as financially intelligent, I guess, um, on everything having to do with stocks. Um, I do understand his

[00:42:30] preservation, but what I didn't understand is that he doesn't realize that there are low-risk stocks,

[00:42:36] and then there are high-risk stocks. You do not have to contribute to a high-risk one. You can

[00:42:42] contribute to a low-risk one. So, it's like, okay, you could have the general knowledge of what a stock

[00:42:48] is and what you can invest in. And she does say, like, even your 401k, have you turned that into,

[00:42:56] like, a mutual fund of some sort or something like that. And he looks at her like he doesn't know what

[00:43:01] the hell she's talking about. I don't think he has a 401k. Let's be real. So, anyway, um,

[00:43:08] then we are meeting Dixon, who's Ashley's dad, and they go through all of the things that we normally do,

[00:43:15] and, um, he says that Ashley, you know, be gone. And we talked to this man, and we talked like men,

[00:43:22] and I'm like, what does that mean? Um, but he asks, can I have your daughter's hand in marriage?

[00:43:28] And he says, well, of course, because she chose you. You got my blessing, but this is, you know,

[00:43:36] this is her decision, you know? And he says, this is my one and only daughter. Don't play.

[00:43:41] Don't play with her. Okay. Then we got ominous music. And this is where I will never feel the

[00:43:52] same way about Steven. Oh, everyone, the men suck. Men just have to ruin everything. So,

[00:43:58] we see both Monica and Taylor, and Monica looks really upset. Something has clearly happened.

[00:44:03] Steven must have done something. And, um, we kind of learn about something having to do with a sleep test,

[00:44:12] and we'll get a little more clarity on that. Um, but apparently, um, Steven had to do a sleep test

[00:44:17] the night before. Did he really do the sleep test? I'm like, wait, wait, then where was he? Well,

[00:44:26] um, Steven is here. We do see him. We're going to be hearing about texts,

[00:44:32] texts that have kind of fetish undertones, or maybe not even undertones, maybe just overtones.

[00:44:38] I don't know the opposite of undertones are. Um, they're just out there in your face kind of thing.

[00:44:42] I'm like, wait, what is happening? And she says, you know, why did you do this? Um, were you actually

[00:44:51] had a sleep test? He says, yes, he was. She said, well, I don't believe that. And he says, well,

[00:44:55] I don't think there's really anything that I could say that you'd believe, not that I'm saying you

[00:44:58] should, but I'm just saying that there's really nothing I'm going to say that you're going to believe

[00:45:02] at this point. But to break it down, so this makes sense. Apparently he was texting a woman,

[00:45:09] I don't know what form, but he's texting a woman and he was texting her fetish like stuff. It was

[00:45:17] dirty, dirty. And apparently this conversation was going from the day before into the current day.

[00:45:25] And it kind of just got more suggestive and more suggestive as the hours went by. And he says that,

[00:45:32] um, you know, those, those messages that they didn't happen until because of the sleep study.

[00:45:37] And I was, you know, texting her during the sleep study. And he's like, you said that to her this

[00:45:40] morning. Well then. So the grand scheme of things is he is texting naughty, naughty things to a woman

[00:45:49] that it's not his fiance. So she's like, well, can I see the text messages then? Because if you're

[00:45:55] claiming that these messages were today, then show me the proof of that. He says, well, I deleted the

[00:46:03] messages. Like, well, yeah, of course you did because you want to, sorry, I'm sorry. A man who's deleting

[00:46:09] messages is trying to cover his ass. And I don't fucking think so. So he said, I don't remember

[00:46:18] texting her today. Doesn't matter if you do or you don't. You do, you know, you did, but you want to

[00:46:23] save face and that's fine. Um, but he's like, I'm going to go. I'm going to get it. I'm sorry. I

[00:46:28] wasted your time. I'm sorry for all this, blah, blah, blah. And she says, that's so fucking selfish

[00:46:32] because you came on the show claiming you have these intentions of getting married to somebody,

[00:46:39] but clearly you never have those intentions. And you wasted my time. You wasted producers' times.

[00:46:43] You wasted everyone's time here. So that's really selfish of you. But she says,

[00:46:48] well, before you go, can you please Venmo me the money that I provided you since you've lost your

[00:46:54] job? Like, I'm not going to support you when you're doing this shit and I'm done. Um, she's like,

[00:47:02] you're going to do that right here in front of me before you leave. So he Venmo's her the money

[00:47:08] while he's there in front of her face. Um, and he's like, you know, there you go. Blah, blah, blah.

[00:47:21] And she's like, you're like, she's, she's, she's grossed out at this point. She has now officially

[00:47:27] gotten the ick. She's like, you know, you're laying in a sleep test bed, texting this other girl,

[00:47:32] like you're gross. This is disgusting. Like, you know, he probably like got off on that. Like,

[00:47:38] let's be real here. This is, this is gross. And he says like, I'm sorry. This is where he says,

[00:47:43] I shouldn't have been on the show. And she says that you're being selfish. And he says, I'm sorry,

[00:47:48] I'll leave you alone now. And he leaves. And just immediately as he leaves, Taylor and Garrett just

[00:47:55] come in and just support her. The end of the end of that, they just are there for her through this.

[00:48:02] And, um, but yeah, that's it for this episode. Steven, my guy, you've went and fucked up.

[00:48:12] So I, ah, differently of you, man. But since we've lost a couple here, and we're clearly not

[00:48:20] going to see them go to, um, to the altar, we're now down as of this episode, y'all, we're down to,

[00:48:27] no, five couples. And I'm going to go back and see what did I say about Monica and Steven? Did I

[00:48:34] say that they were going to make it? I did say that they were going to make it. So I got that wrong.

[00:48:38] Yay. Got that so wrong. So there's that. But that is it for this episode. So the next episode,

[00:48:49] you're probably going to get, we're going to see if I can get a recording done before, um,

[00:48:56] for the end of the day, but we'll see. If not, um, you'll get the next episode for Love is Blind,

[00:49:02] um, on, uh, Thursday. But if I'm able to do it in the day, the next episode,

[00:49:08] you're going to get is going to be the Sister Wives episode. Um, we do have Leticia back for

[00:49:13] that. So there's that. I didn't do in the preamble, but just so people are aware, if you

[00:49:19] do listen to Sister Wives, just so you're aware at the end, it's at the very end, we do talk a little

[00:49:24] B90, we talk a little Toe, we talk a little, um, uh, uh, Life After Lockup as well, which is

[00:49:34] talk, um, very briefly. We do talk a little, a little Mamas, but it's very brief. So just in

[00:49:40] case you haven't watched the most recent episodes, you're aware. And, um, it is at the end though.

[00:49:46] So you can stop once the Sister Wives recap is, is started and you can, um, uh, leave it at that.

[00:49:53] So, but that's it. That's the end of this episode. I'm plowing through Love is Blind and I'm happy.

[00:50:01] Um, cause I, I, when I'm at, I'm on episode 10 currently and I'm like, oh, one more to go.

[00:50:07] Like I'm getting there. So I'm, I'm catching up to everybody. So I'm happy. Um, but that's it.

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